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Planning VS Doing

A few years ago I started along my journey as an Internet Marketer. I was on the campus of Broome Community College and saw a little piece of paper with something along the lines of “Make $761 a week to fill out surveys”

Oh shit, I was hooked.

I was 21 years old, anxious to succeed with this whole thing and was exposed to the whole world of internet marketing. I bought that product that day for like $55, went through the whole thing in about 15 minutes (it was poorly put together) and then I made up my own flyers.

I created an account on and started printing up flyers to plaster all over campus. I must have created about 100 of these little flyers that first day and spent the next week covering the campus with these flyers for Mike Geary’s product, Truth about Abs that paid me about $26 per sale.

I even got onto one of those link shortening sites and set it up so the link wouldn’t be so long. I logged onto and shortened that link so I could make it look like a real offer…

thinking back, that was really stupid of me. How many people would remember a link that was something like when they only see it for a couple seconds?

Silly me!

If I was in their position I wouldn’t remember that long of a link.

So, the next great idea hit me… I could create those little pull off tabs on the bottom of the page with the link so people could take it home and I could make some money.

So I did that…

A few weeks later I had made about 3 sales for $26 a pop. Man, this stuff works!

What happened here?

Some of you reading this right now may think “damn that sounds like a lot of work for less than $100”.

I mean, I did go pay about $7 at Kinko’s to print out those papers. I also spent about an hour walking around and putting those papers everywhere around campus.

So for about an hour of work, I made about $70. I’d say that’s pretty good considering my other jobs would make me only $20 tops an hour… (waiting tables or valet parking)

There’s a little lesson here that you may have noticed… when I first saw that ad placed on the board at school, I did something that not many people would have… I actually decided to go through the product!

After going through that product, I could have sat down on the couch and just thought “yeah, that could work well..”

but instead of sitting around and not doing anything, I said to myself, “f*%^ it, I might as well try” and started making those banners to post everywhere.

I took ACTION and actually did something.

and man did it change my life.

Since then, i’ve been involved in a lot of different online businesses and failed in a lot of them and succeeded in a few of them.

One of the businesses that has been the most lucrative for me is Empower Network. It taught me how to correctly market a product.

If you have ever wanted to make a decision to change your life, now is the time.
I made the decision and it’s been taking me to places like this…

It’s time for you to step out of your comfort zone and to take action on something that could potentially change your life.

and you can get started today for only $25.

I’d say that’s pretty badass since that first product I bought was about $55 and didn’t really teach much.

What’s wrong with our generation?

One of my mentors just sent me an article that really got me thinking about the way our generation is and how lazy a lot of us are compared with previous generations… in fact I can hear my dad reminding me how he used to walk 5 miles up hill both ways to school when he was younger.

**side note: my dad’s school was right on the same street he lived on, about a 3 minute walk…on a flat road Love you Dad**

If you want to know what got me fired up to write this, you can check out the article at 22 Stats That Prove That There Is Something Seriously Wrong With Young Men In America.

The Peter Pan Generation

Peter Pan

Image source: Peter Pan

Alright, so I’ve gotta admit something right off the bat. Peter Pan was one of my favorite movies when I was younger and the concept of “never growing up” has been one that has stuck with me to this day.

Now you might think its sad of me to believe that I never have to grow up, or that I’m not taking full responsibility for my life by choosing the route of Peter Pan.

I’m here to tell you WHY I choose to still believe that growing up in the traditional sense of the word is quite silly and why I agree on certain points this article made, and disagree with others.

I’m just going to get this out of the way as well:

I firmly believe that it is a man’s responsibility to take care of himself, make sure he has a place to live(that’s not his parents), have food to eat and be financially independent. My personal opinion is that we need to do all of these things to truly live a fulfilled life and to be able to add value to the world.

Now i’m going to address a couple of the points made in the post I read…

“Last week, I read that there is even a name for people such as me. We are the ‘Peter Pan generation’; a sizeable group of 25 to 40-year-olds who exist in a state of extended adolescence, avoiding the trappings of responsibility — marriage, mortgage, children — for as long as possible.”

**notice it says trappings of responsibility **
Okay, so I can agree with the Peter Pan generation principle. Many of the people I’ve met over the past few years are trying to find a way to avoid adulthood.

Some are living with their parents even until their 30’s, saying that because there are no jobs available they cannot live on their own because they can’t afford it.

I personally believe that there are jobs available all over the US, it’s just that many people live in a city or town where there aren’t many jobs available.

If that’s you, check out the article >> 10 US cities with the most unfilled job openings <<

Let’s just face the facts here, it’s uncomfortable for a lot of people to move to a new city to pursue a job, which prevents a lot of people from ever doing it.

It’s scary to move to a new city, not knowing anyone, and try to make it. I’ve done it and it scared the crap out of me. I have many friends who have done the same thing and are now enjoying their life more than ever because they stepped out of their comfort zones.

To those of you reading this who live with your parents and are working to save money to get your own place or to be in a better financial position to move out and have a cushion for your finances, I respect that. This is not directed at you. Keep hustlin!

If you believe that the world owes you a job because of who your parents are or for some other reason, you need to wake the f*#$ up.

The world owes us nothing.

We are granted the opportunity to live. We are giving the chance to create the life we want. It’s not going to be easy in the least bit, but it will be worth it.

The truth is that it is our responsibility to become a linchpin for anything that we work on.

What is a linchpin? According to Seth Godin:

“There used to be two teams in every workplace: management and labor. Now there’s a third team, the linchpins. These people figure out what to do when there’s no rule book. They delight and challenge their customers and peers. They love their work, pour their best selves into it, and turn each day into a kind of art.

Linchpins are the essential building blocks of great organizations. They may not be famous but they’re indispensable. And in today’s world, they get the best jobs and the most freedom.”

-Seth Godin in the book Linchpin

It is our responsibility to get off our lazy asses, learn a new skill and work our asses off to become an asset to a company. Quit spending 5 or 6 hours a day playing Farmville and start doing something productive with our lives.

We need to take responsibility to improve our lives and it starts right now.

Okay, so I agree with him that many people in our generation are extremely lazy..

What about getting married?

In this article, it stated “#20 Today, an all-time low 44.2% of Americans between the ages of 25 and 34 are married.”

I spend a lot of time learning about relationships, love, sex and how its an important part of our life. I’ve dated quite a few girls, been in long term relationships and at my current age (25) I feel like I am in no position to be married.

The other day I spent about an hour talking with a couple who will have been married for 60 years on January 3rd. They started dating when he was 17 and she was 15, married at 19 and 17 and have been together ever since.

While I think that is 100% awesome, it is not something that I would be comfortable doing. Over the past few years I have met some of the most interesting and some of the craziest girls out there and I’ve learned something from every single one of them.

Many of them helped encourage me to become better and without them I would not be where I’m at today.

Some of the girls even encouraged me when they looked on my bookshelf and saw that I was reading books like The Way of The Superior Man, The Female Brain, Why Men Love Bitches and King, Warrior, Magician, Lover:Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine.

**all of those link to the respected book on Amazon via an affiliate link, I get a small commission if you choose to buy through that link**

Those books are all about becoming a better man.

Well, except the Why Men Love Bitches book, that’s a book written for females to learn about why men are attracted to a strong woman who stands up for herself. I read that so I could better understand the process a woman needs to go through to live her optimal life so I can help my girlfriends on their personal path.

The reason I feel that I am not in a position to be married right now is because I like different things about different girls I date. Some of them encourage me to be more adventurous, while others encourage me with business and others encourage me with other aspects of my life.

I’m sure that at some point I will find someone who is exactly what I would want in a wife, but until then I’m going to continue to learn from everyone I meet. In fact, the other day in Costa Rica I met a girl who was a few years older than me and had been to about 15 of the places I plan on visiting.

We got along great and will definitely be staying in touch throughout the years, probably meeting up in different places and having a great time. Am I going to marry her just because of that? Nope.

I’m going to stay single and continue to learn more about what qualities I truly love about a girl and what qualities I do not like. This way I’ll stay happy and when I get married, it’ll be for life.

You’re supposed to have a mortgage at 25!


This was the case for the baby boomer generation and generations before that and for good reasons.

They didn’t have all the technology we have available to be able to live longer, work all around the world and do many of the things we currently take for granted. Travel was a lot more difficult and it was impossible to make money from a normal job when you weren’t in the office. Lucky for us, we can make internet monies.

At this point in my life, I have visited quite a few different places on this planet and still don’t know where I want to live for the rest of my life. For example, right now I’m living in Boquete, Panama.

I love the ability to spend a few months in one spot and then move a few months later to explore other spots. I guess that explains why I switched colleges 3 different times…it opens my mind to how other people live and allows me to be grateful for what I have, as well as teach me about what I ultimately want.

If I was to have a mortgage, I would be stuck in one spot living there and maintaining my house. This would really limit the people who I get to meet and my general happiness level.

If I had a normal job that didn’t allow me to work wherever my laptop was, I would probably have a mortgage.

At this point in my life, I am doing what makes me happy and will continue to do the things that make me happy. I’m sure that as I get older some of the things I enjoy will change and I am 100% okay with that.

However at this point, I’m glad that I don’t have a mortgage, marriage or children.

What do you think about the Peter Pan Generation?

It’s OK to Not Know…

Chris Hughes entrepreneur

Yesterday I had one of the most intense learning sessions of my life.

You see, over the past few weeks I have been living in Boquete, Panama and this past week we came down to Guanacaste, Costa Rica to see some friends, meet some girls and do some surfing.

We did not expect what would happen next.

Sunday night while we were sitting outside by the pool overlooking the ocean, we were discussing a lot about business and what each of the guys I’m down here with are doing with a business. Some of us are absolute beginners when it comes to building a business and a couple of us have been doing it for a few years and are trying to have a break-through to get to the next level.

Two of our mentors just so happened to be in the pool sitting there talking with us and decided that they would really enjoy teaching us about what they had learned while growing their business to the point that it is at now. While we were actively learning while sitting at the pool, it wasn’t in a traditional seminar type style learning and was a little less structured that a business should be.

All of us really got pumped up about the opportunity to spend an entire day learning the ins and outs of growing a successful company.

We agreed to starting tuesday at 8am and would continue all day.

This was one of the most beneficial seminars I’ve sat in. We had the ability to speak with Joe Sugarman, the founder of direct response marketing and we were able to ask him questions about how he got to the point he was at.

Here are a few of the gold nuggets that he shared with us that I feel will have a major impact on many of our lives.

Joe Sugarman Gold Nuggets

Whatever happens, happens for the best”

“Every problem has within it an opportunity that dwarfs the problem.”

“Focus on helping the people, money will take care of itself”

Find success through failure”

Now these might not mean a thing to you.

You could think I’m a goof for believing that anything is possible, that I can grow a super successful business and that I can accomplish my goal of positively impacting the lives of over a million people in my life.

It’s fine if you think that. I’m 100% okay with that and don’t want you to change your mind if you don’t want to.

However, I’m going to use this information to help me accomplish all the crazy goals I have set for myself.

If you take the time to think about even one of these little lessons that he shared with us yesterday, you will probably do what I did and start to realize that all of the shit that I’ve had to go through to get where I’m at was all worth it. All those times that I struggled and struggled, having barely any money in my account and not knowing what I was going to do with my self. It was all worth it.

One of the biggest things i’ve always tried to keep in mind is to always help friends and help others, even when I wasn’t succeeding.

This was extremely hard at times, but it was so rewarding.

What i’m starting to realize now is that these extremely difficult times are helping me appreciate the good times I am currently experiencing.

Check out where I am able to work from today because of overcoming the struggles I have gone through.

Chris Hughes entrepreneur

Now I’m not doing this to brag, but to encourage you if you are going through tough times.

I remember a few months ago I had absolutely no idea what I was doing with my life. I had learned a lot of information over the years about online marketing and business building (i’m obsessed with learning) but I wasn’t sure of what was going to be happening in my future.

After yesterdays full day seminar, I learned that the times I had been going through were a part of the process. That all of these guys who I have been meeting and connecting with have gone through similar difficult times. Some of the guys have had gone into enormous debt, had very difficult childhoods and have struggled like you wouldn’t believe.

This brings me to the title of this blog post here today….it’s OK to not know.

25 Years Old Today

5:42PM Location: Boquete, Panama

So today marks the 25th year on Earth for me.

It’s crazy. 25 years.

A quarter century.

A few years back I was wondering what I was going to do with my life when I graduated college.

I never would have thought that I’d be sitting here overlooking this beautiful view.. The past couple days I’ve had quite a few successful marketing promo’s on Facebook and have some great feelings about the future. I’ve been surrounding myself with some people who I admire so much. People who have taken a dream, started a business and created a life that they absolutely love. One of my friends that I’ve really been hanging out with here made over $100,000 last month. A cool thing about this is that he just turned 27 today. Yep, we’ve got the same birthday! He’s an awesome dude and a great marketer. I’ve been learning a TON from him the past few days. Other people who live in this community are retired and have built massive businesses and know just what it takes to grow a business. Sitting around the dinner table with people like this and listening to the conversations they have has had a major impact on the way I look at business. Instead of worrying about “I need to make $5,000 this month”  there are questions like “how much profit will that specific project yield after 6 months” and other topics that are more long term thinking. Ideas are being discussed that are dealing with investing hundreds of thousands of dollars, even millions of dollars that will have a global impact on the world. Instead of only worrying about my immediate bottom line, it got me thinking about what I was going to do that had an impact on this world. One of the after-hours conversations that took place (many of us had some wine or liquor), we were discussing our personal missions. One of the guys asked me what my goal or mission was and I responded with what I have adopted as my personal mission at this point… my response was: “to positively impact the lives of over a million people in my lifetime” People smiled when they heard that and said that I was well on my way to doing that and that they appreciated that I always was trying to add value to conversations and trying to make everyone feel better and do better. **pats self on back** Today I spent about an hour on the par 3 golf course in the community with one of these guys. While we were cracking jokes and hacking away at the ball, we were discussing how I could grow my business and scale it properly. We were discussing everything from creating a tribe of raving fans geared towards a specific market, paying for experts to create products for these people and hiring a team to sell the products while we worry about whether to hit a 9 iron or a pitching wedge. Right now I’ve been building a fan page on Facebook that has over 250,000 likes on it. I decided to test an offer to that page the other day and it converted pretty well (this was when there was 110,000 fans) and it netted me over $600 from one single post. While this may not seem like a lot of money to many people, that pays my rent. The next step is to simply re-create this and duplicate it with other pages, while simultaneously adding a percentage of these people to my email list. I’ve been working on having capture pages created that will entice people to give me their email address, which means I’ll be able to sell them things in the future even if Facebook deletes my pages. I would not have been thinking about that prior to being down here and having someone say something to me that I had heard before in one of the Empower Network training videos I had gone through in the $15K Formula video course. It’s funny how it takes an external source sometime to say just one or two words that CLICKS with something you had learned before. That single nugget has added 500 people to my email list in the past week, adding over $1,000 in commissions to my bank account and will yield a lot more profit long-term as I apply this more. I can honestly say that I was 100% terrified to come down here to Panama and leave a bartending job I had in the states. I even remember telling my buddy Tollie Schmidt that I was terrified to come down here, but I knew that because I was terrified I had to do it. Life sure has a strange way of kicking the shit out of us one month and then opening up infinite possibilites the next month. Sometimes it really does take an extremely low time in your life to put you in a proper position to have a massive break through. My break through is happening right now as you are reading this and I couldn’t be happier. I’ve gotta thank Brendan Wenzel for introducing me to Empower Network and exposing me to a community that has altered the way I think about growing a business and my buddies Chase, Cole and Max for believing  in me when I was going through a difficult time in the business while being down here and really questioning what I was doing with my life. Without all of you guys, I may have given up on this. To all my other friends out there who always have believed in me, I love you all. You know who you are and I don’t want to spend the next hour writing out every single persons name. I hope that I’m helping you create positive experiences and memories in your life and that you continue to chase your dreams.