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My Dream Girl: A List of What I’m Looking For

The other day a friend of mine Jason Moffatt posted on Facebook something about his list of 40 things he’s looking for in his dream girl and that got me inspired to actually finish up the list I had in my search for my dream girl.

I’m a huge advocate for writing lists like this because it’s literally allowed me to create a business that allows me to live wherever and travel to wherever I want while making money from everywhere. When something works for one part of your life, it will usually work for all the other areas of your life as well.

A few years back I had created a vision board that had a lake house on it, as well as a beach house. Well, I’ve lived in the lake house and now live on a beach and have even visited some of the exact locations I had on that vision board… kinda crazy to think about, but yes it has happened.

Because I’ve found out that this technique works for awesome experiences and living situations, why not share my intention to attract my ideal dream girl as well?

Over the last 8 months,  I’ve been traveling and I’ve started to realize what traits I really like in girls and what traits/characteristics I don’t really like or want in a girl. So instead of just thinking about this once and forgetting it, I figured I’d actually write out the traits I’m looking for in my ideal girl. By doing this, I am positive that I will start to attract more girls who fit the description and will start to have more fulfilling relationships.

A little crazy? Probably.

A great idea? Definitely.

So here goes nothing ladies, here are the traits I am looking for in my dream girl.

  1. Is interested in a healthy lifestyle, including mind, body & spirit
  2. Interested in traveling, seeing the world and different cultures
  3. Loves the beach and warm weather.
  4. Has a great relationship with her parents
  5. Loves to read/learn every day so that she is improving her brain and thinking abilities
  6. Financially Responsible. I don’t want to be your “sugar daddy” and buy you everything. Relationships are about balance. I will buy you things, just make sure that you don’t rely on me for everything.
  7. Not too obsessed with material things. I can understand a little bit, but not over obsessed. Right now I’m traveling with 2 bags and you can see what I take with me in this post > What Do I Travel With As An Entrepreneur? 
  8. Relaxed, chill, understands the importance of meditation
  9. Great sense of humor
  10. Doesn’t have kids
  11. Would like to have a family someday
  12. Good at solving problems.
  13. Honest
  14. Trustworthy
  15. Goes out of her way to make others smile. This is a big one, which is why it’s #15 (My favorite number)
  16. Okay with the feminine role in the relationship, letting the man lead when appropriate
  17. Doesn’t watch the negative news
  18. Listens to me and engages. Not only does she listen but she opens herself up to me as well.
  19. Lets me watch sports and doesn’t get pissed if I ignore her the entire time a Duke game is on. .
  20. Social butterfly
  21. Doesn’t take prescription meds/anti-depressants for artificial happiness. Must be happy without those things
  22. Enjoys receiving gifts and love. I enjoy giving both.
  23. Open to learning new things
  24. Kinky in the bedroom
  25. Enjoys cooking and/or providing meals. While I CAN make meals for myself, I prefer not too. It’s not something I enjoy. I prefer either hiring a chef, going to a restaurant or hiring take out from a fancy restaurant and putting it on plates like I made it. I would be open to taking cooking lessons together to get better at cooking and it would be a fun time to hangout. Also playing around in the kitchen can be fun 😉
  26. Encourages me to become a better person everyday
  27. Believes in me and understands that sometimes I’ll have crazy ideas and work until I achieve them. This can even include going to another country because of something I read and wanted to see with my own two eyes.
  28. Challenges me to become a better person.
  29. Accepts my completely random ass self and loves that I am this way
  30. Confident in herself and her abilities, yet still gets a lot out of it when I encourage her
  31. 4’11 to 5’8
  32. In good shape and exercises daily… you have more energy when you exercise daily!
  33. Is interested in my writing and reads it on her own without me telling her I posted anything and shares it with people in her life. (Thank you Monica Fay for helping me get clear on this one!)
  34. Is sarcastic and can poke fun of me and take it when I poke fun of her. I love that aspect of relationships.
  35. 18-25 years old
  36. Enjoys giving and receiving massages.

Alright, I feel a lot better now. I’m sure I’ll add more/change things as I grow as a person and will get even more specific about my dream girl but for right now this describes her better than anything else I could do.

It sure feels good to know exactly what I like in girls I date and feels even better to see it. I have a feeling this will help me to attract the right type of girls into my life and to continue to improve myself on a daily basis so that I can be the best version of myself.

So ladies, contact me at [email protected] if you fit that description, know someone who does or you want to make an introduction.

I’m on Facebook as well if you think it’s pretty cool that I just put this out there, so connect with me there at http://Facebook.com/WhosChrisHughes

Either that or you can leave a comment below if you’re brave enough to tell me I just described you.

Why I Changed My Backyard

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Why I Changed My Backyard…

A few years back I moved out of NY where I was born and raised and spent 22 years of my life.

Instead of settling in a place where I wasn’t truly happy, I decided to switch up my location and head to a place where I knew there would be sun daily. I packed up my car and headed down to life uncharted down in Florida.

What I noticed while I was there was that my life started to change dramatically. Heading down to Florida was a life changing moment for me. It was a time in which I wasn’t really sure what I wanted to do in life or with my “career” in business. I knew that I wanted to work for myself, but I wasn’t always in a position of this happening.

Stepping out of my comfort zone by moving to a new place did something for me.

It changed me.

It changed me in a way that I am forever grateful for. It showed me that it was alright to step out of my comfort zone and to step into a place that I wasn’t 100% comfortable in being.

Have you ever thought about changing your backyard?

Seriously.

What places or place have you been or always wanted to go to?

What was it about this place that you loved?

Was it a certain amount of sunshine or snow that made you happy?

Was it certain noises that you heard or certain animals that were running around you?

For me, it was the sounds of the ocean and tropical birds flying around. Little crabs crawling all over the place, seeing lizards running all over and hearing those birds chirping makes me extremely happy.

Here’s my current backyard:

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So what I’ve decided to do is to make sure that my backyard has the ocean in it, or is at least near enough to an ocean that I can go to the ocean to either surf or just listen to the waves and meditate.

Where is your ideal backyard? Leave a comment below on your ideal backyard!

 

 

Tell Me About Yourself!

This video is about YOU… not about me.

So if you’ve been struggling to get started with the whole online marketing thing, this will help you get un-stuck.

It’ll help you get out of your own way and on your way to creating videos on a daily basis to help you grow as a person and to help you grow your business.

Be sure to pay close attention to what I’m saying in the video and take IMMEDIATE action on doing the little assignment I give ya. It will help you as I know it has helped myself and countless others.

How to Build a System and Make Money

Hey guys Chris Hughes here and right now I’m live at Finca Lerida here in Boquete, Panama.

 

In this video you’ll get to see the Finca Lerida coffee plantation. One of my buddies Cole, who was filming this video went to the top of the mountain there to have some coffee and share this experience with you.

 

This video is to show a little bit about the experiences I’ve been having while living in Panama.

 

The reason I wanted to create this short video was to show you how businesses are built in the offline brick-n-mortar world. You need to have some type of a system that you can run people through.

 

For example in the video here, we drove up an entire mountain to have the coffee that was produced at this place because the coffee there is so fresh and delicious and being above everything else is totally worth the experience.

 

The cool thing about Finca Lerida is that you get to see how everything is made.

 

When you are driving up the hill, you get to see rows and rows of coffee plants all over the place.

 

In the video I show some pictures of the rows of coffee, some pictures of the guys naturally roasting the coffee beans from the sun below where I am standing in that video.

 

In a little building in the distance of this video you get to see where the next step of the coffee process is, you know all the finishing touches and things like that.

 

To me, it is awesome to witness something like that where you get to see the entire process of being created and actually seeing where the product is being consumed.

 

When you are running a business you need to have some type of system in place otherwise you will not succeed. You see, Systems Succeed, People are the ones who fail.

 

Right now I’m actually using the Empower Network system to help train people on how to sell things online and earn an income from the internet.

 

If you want to learn more, which you know you do, all you have to do is click here.

Not Everyone Will Be Successful

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Something that has been on my mind a lot lately is the fact that some people will always expect you to give them everything once you become successful.

Over the past couple months i’ve been experiencing quite a bit of success with different ventures I have been involved with and it seems that ever since this has happened, I have people expecting me to just give them stuff for free. I even wrote a full blog post about why I don’t do free consulting anymore that addresses why I don’t just give away my information anymore.

While I still do like helping friends, I’m not going to do it for them. I’ll give them an idea, but it’s up to them to actually work hard and make themselves successful.

It’s amazing to me that this happens, but I also can see why it is happening more now than ever to me.

I can remember when I was struggling, I would often hope and pray that someone would help pull me out of my slump and help me make the big bucks. I’m grateful to those mentors of mine who saw something in me and helped teach me, and I know they are happy because i’ve actually taken action on what they’ve taught me.

However I see people all the time who expect me to build their business for them, or to just give them my money because I have it.

I believe its part of the lottery mentality….simply hoping that you would strike it rich because you did one little thing (bought a ticket). There’s a reason that 99% of the people who play the lottery do not win the lottery…

Its simply that not everyone can win the lottery, the same as how not everyone can be successful.

It might piss you off to hear this

 

I know that if someone told me that, I’d say “go f*$% yourself man, i’m going to be successful.” and if you got upset when you read that not everyone can be successful, you have a chance to be successful.

There are some situations in which people expect for you to do everything for them, without ever doing anything themselves. You may have met or worked with people who have had everything handed to them their entire lives and it might frustrate you as well.

I was the youngest child in my family and I know that my brother’s felt that I was always given things my whole life, and I know for a while I was given a lot from my parents. That’s part of being “the baby” and I still love that I’m the baby of the family.

My breakthrough happened when I realized that if something was going to happen in my life, it was 100% up to me to make it happen. It wasn’t up to my parents, my brothers or my friends…but up to me. Entirely up to this kid who I see in the mirror every single morning.

This is when I started reading like a mad man, spending all of my money on books and courses to learn about marketing and everything business. I submersed myself in information. I read everything I could get my hands on to learn all types of information on marketing, psychology, relationships, sales, team building, leadership, happiness and even information on how attraction works.

While I was doing this, I would test out stuff that I was learning. I would speak differently than I was comfortable with, learning how to command respect and to impact people. I did things that would scare me and I surrounded myself with people who would force me to grow.

Sure, it scared the living shit out of me at the time. But I’ve gotta admit, today I am so so happy that I did those things.

I’m sitting here right now living outside of the United States, with plans to visit more of the world in 2013 and couldn’t be happier.

The reason I’m in this position now is because I put myself through all of the hard times and kept my head up and kept pushing forward. Instead of just giving up or expecting people to just give me my success, I went out there and took it.

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Think about that for a second…

Success comes from taking the initiative and following up…Persisting.

It doesn’t come from sitting on your ass everyday dreaming for something to happen. It comes from taking things into your own hands.

When things get ugly and you are in a slump, keep pushing forward. Slumps happen, it’s all a part of the cycle of life. We have to fail in order to really love it when we’re at the peaks.

Thinking back, I’ve had less than a dollar in my bank account and still pushed on. It scared me, but I sure am glad I did it.

I’ve found that the problem with most people is that they just don’t want it bad enough.

Sure, they’ll tell you that they will do anything it takes to succeed. They’ll tell you that they’ll wake up early and stay up late to get those extra minutes or hours in the day to push their project forward.

But we all know that Action Speaks Louder Than Words.

and what I’ve noticed is that a lot of people love talking the talk… but not many people actually walk the walk.

if you are someone who loves talking the talk, congratulations to you. It will make you feel better temporarily to talk about what you would do or you will do, but in the end it’s all just talk.

It all comes down to taking massive action. To putting your ass on the line and doing what’s necessary to make sure you succeed with whatever goals you set yourself.

If you’ve been lying to yourself, you can use this to wake up and to kick your ass into gear.

Today could be a changing point in your life if you let it.

However, the choice is yours.

I’m simply here to share with you what i’ve learned and hopefully push you in the right direction towards achieving the goals you set.

If you’ve always wanted to start a business, you should.

or you can continue to live your life the same way you always have, and always get the same thing you’ve always gotten.

The choice truly is yours.