This post is going to be the first part of a series that’s all about improving your self-esteem from your inside-out instead of trying to build your self-esteem from outside-in.
You might be thinking….
what the hell does that mean?
Well, in its simplest form it means that you aren’t relying on other people to improve your self-esteem.
For me, it was getting approval from successful people or very attractive girls that made me feel good. When I earned their approval, I would feel better about myself and my self-esteem would rise. If I was rejected by them, my self-esteem would get lower. (This is one of the reasons I started studying pick-up artists and attraction)
I’m not saying that I’ve completely figured out how to improve my self-esteem 100% from the inside, but I have learned a few things that have helped improve my self-esteem over the past few years. Some of these tips might be able to help you out if you are currently struggling with having low self-esteem.
I’ve found that self-esteem really does depend on how happy you are with yourself. Other peoples feelings and words can affect how you feel, but it’s ultimately you who decides how you feel and if you are happy with yourself. We can always change the way we think about something and by changing the way we feel about something, we can change our experiences.
The first question to ask yourself is “Am I happy right now?”
If the answer to this is yes, then I give you props because not many people can say that about themselves and their lives. I’ve got a lot of respect for you already if that is the case.
However, if you are like most people…your answer to this question is no. The next question to ask yourself is…
Why Am I Unhappy?
Now we’ve got someplace to start. We understand that you are not currently happy with where you are. Now let’s figure out what it is about your current situation that is preventing you from being happy.
Is it financial?
Is it because of a bad relationship?
Is it because of family problems?
Is it another issue besides these?
After you can identify which area your unhappiness is because of, we can start to figure out a solution to these problems. It’s my guess that a lot of us are struggling with our finances because our economy isn’t in the greatest condition right now.
After you have figured out why you are unhappy, you can start to do things to change this behavior and to make yourself feel better.
In the next post, How to Improve Your Self-Esteem Part 2, I will share with you the next few steps I use to improve my own self-esteem and make myself happier. It’s coming soon…