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How to Design Your Dream Life – From Someone Who’s Done It

dream life

Ever thought what your life would look like if you woke up one day and it was just PERFECT?

You know… you wake up in a place that you love looking out the window, next to the person you love.

Watch this video…

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It all starts with getting specific about what that looks like for you.

As you know, you can’t ever achieve anything if you aren’t specific about what it is that you want.

Want to get in shape?
Make it a habit of exercising every day and eating less.

Related: Create Your Reality: Your Future Depends on What You Do Today

Want to learn how to make an extra $500 a month?
Write down the goal you have and then break it down into achievable milestones.

Getting specific at this point makes everything more likely to happen, because you can make an action plan around the goal.

The same is true with every aspect of your life. Get specific about what you want, and you’re more likely to achieve it.

have the courage to follow your dreams

ever thought about giving up?

Sure you have! We all have… some of us more than others.

What’s crazy to think about is that if I would have given up on my dreams in 2012, I never would have been able to live the life of my dreams. I’m talking about traveling the world, meeting the girl of my dreams, having experiences I used to dream about and doing it while building a business that I love.

It was all because I had the courage to follow my dreams. Because I didn’t give up, because I didn’t give in when times got tough.

Because I kept pushing forward.

The good news is that you have the power to do this too, YOU can make the decision to follow your dreams.

It’s not going to be easy, but it will be worth it.

 

7 Reasons Why Spending Money on Experiences Makes Us Happier

Why Does Spending Money Make Us Happier?

January 29, 2018
Location: sitting at the desk in our villa in Playa Encuentro, Dominican Republic watching the rain over the palm trees
Time: 10:18am

Life has been an absolute dream come true for me over the last few years. Today, I wanted to write about why I believe spending money on experiences makes us happier than buying stuff does.

Why am I writing about this? Well, I often find myself having conversations with people and they tell me they would love to live my life and go do the stuff I have done.

The good news is that now they can. Click here to learn more about turning your “bucket list” into your “liv’d list”.

One major reason for me writing this right now is that it’s raining outside, and it has been for the last 4 days. WHERE IS THE SUN!?!? We’re in the Caribbean, it’s supposed to be sunshine and beaches all day, right?

Well, life doesn’t always turn out that way. If it did, we wouldn’t appreciate the sunny days as much.

So here are…

7 Reasons Why Spending Money on Experiences Makes Us Happier Than Buying Stuff.

If you weren’t aware yet, the millennial generation is now the largest age demographic. Some people are probably bothered by this, because it seems like each generation has something against the other generations, for whatever reason.

Millennials “aren’t spending our money on cars, TVs and watches,” Taylor Smith, CEO and co-founder of Blueboard, told CNBC. “We’re renting scooters and touring Vietnam, rocking out at music festivals, or hiking Machu Picchu.”

Want to see something kind of funny? This is actually the scooter I have in the Dominican Republic right now…

While I would rather be driving around in a Tesla, this type of transportation works so much better for the life I live. I’ve had a scooter as my main transportation in Bali, Thailand and now the Dominican Republic. It works so well for the minimalist beach lifestyle.

It’s 0-60 time… well, honestly I don’t think this little Yamaha Jog can get to 60mph :-p

Dr. Thomas Gilovich, a psychology professor at Cornell University, believes in the Easterlin Paradox, which states that after our basic needs have been met, money will only increase happiness to a certain point for the following reasons:

  1. Happiness over material items quickly fades.

    Spending money makes us happy, we can all agree on that. Especially those of us who were raised in the USA. All the advertisements make us want to BUY ALL THE THINGS! 
    It’s honestly kind of crazy, but the point of advertising is to get us to want things so badly that we have to buy them. I’m in advertising and love the fact that this is true, it allows me to live this life. However, the problems arise when we realize that the things we buy, that feeling we get, it only lasts for a little while.The new iPhone, the new car, the new _______ (fill in the blank). Once we have the item and we’ve had it for a little while, it loses its appeal. It just is part of our “stuff”.Experiences on the other hand… like traveling, running with the bulls, diving with sharks, visiting waterfalls, or doing other items on our Liv List… these things stay with us. They become a part of our identity, which brings us greater satisfaction long term.Those experiences will always be with us. We’ll look back when we’re old and wrinkly and get that dumb grin on our face thinking about how cool it was that we did it.

  2. Experiences define your purpose and passions.

    We can all agree that everything we do in life should be based around our purpose and our passions, and not just because we want certain material possessions.Yes, yes… I know, it isn’t always that easy and straightforward. But, can we at least agree that our life SHOULD be based around our purpose and passions?Think of it like this… if you’re a sports fan, you have all the t-shirts, the autographs, you watch all the games… do any of those top going to the arena and watching the team play live? Of course not! I actually still think about the time I went to see the Duke Men’s Basketball team play in Cameron Indoor Stadium, standing in the student’s section with my face painted… the energy was just incredible.That right there, that single experience is better than all the shirts, hoodies, anything I could buy… and I went to that game in 2010.

  3. Possessions don’t contribute to social relationships.

    “We consume experiences directly with other people,” says Gilovich. “And after they’re gone, they’re part of the stories that we tell to one another.”My girlfriend and I went to Machu Picchu with the Under30Experiences tour group a few years ago, and we still to this day talk to the people we had that experience with. We actually met up with one in Austin a few months back and went kayaking on the river around the city. (More experiences)
    I’ve gotta say that having experiences like these are much better than the temporary feeling of just buying something.

  4. Moments are more memorable.

    While experiences tend to only last for a short period of time, they provide an incredibly high level of memorability because of anticipation.Think about some experience you’ve had. Maybe it was a concert, or show or whatever. You hear that the performer is coming to town, you anticipate buying the tickets, you anticipate attending the show once you bought the tickets, you get excited simply going in the car to get to the event… and then the event actually happens. BOOM. The whole experience is full of excitement, anticipation and memories are cemented in your brain because of that.It’s not just the couple hours of showtime that you remember. You remember the little things leading up to it as well, and how you felt before, during and after it.

  5. Experiences introduce you to a whole new world.

    Growing up in upstate New York, I had a very different perspective of the world as I have now. I had a terrific childhood and wouldn’t change it for the world. It helped shape me into the dude I am today.Random, but did you know you can get ordained as a Dudeist priest? haha no lie. I am ordained as one.

    See that, a new experience you might not have known about!Over the past few years, I’ve been lucky enough to have been able to live all over the world and see just how differently people’s upbringings can be. Each of these new places opens my mind up to what life could have been like. Each time it makes me think about how great of a childhood I had.I never would have known this if I didn’t travel. Sure, I could see it on the Discovery channel or something, but when you see it in person, when you interact with people, when you’re there… that makes an enormous difference.

  6. The garage full of stuff – aka STUFFOCATION
    Weird word, right? I didn’t make it up. Someone else did. But I liked it, so I’m using it.Is your garage jam packed with junk you completely forgot about? Does looking at it give you that feeling of “what the hell is all this shit?” If so… you might be stuffocating. Ha, that word again!Each time you see the garage full of junk, that feeling happens in your body, whether you are aware of it or not. Want to know something that’s pretty cool? You can actually list the stuff for sale on Craigslist or Facebook Marketplace… or even hold a garage sale!You can then use that money to have experiences, start a business, or buy cheeseburgers. (I don’t know what you would do with the money)
  7. Keeping up with the Joneses is a losing battle

    Every time you try to out-do your neighbor, it’ll just lead to more and more… stuff.Why would you be competing with your neighbor anyway? Who cares what they have or don’t have? Sure, the new car will be nice… for the next month or so… but what then? You’ll see the new version and want another.
    The tendency of keeping up with the Joneses tends to be more pronounced for material goods than for experiential purchases,” says Gilovich. This is because, according to research from Ryan Howell and Graham Hill, it’s easier to feature-compare material goods than experiences.“It certainly bothers us if we’re on a vacation and see people staying in a better hotel or flying first class. But it doesn’t produce as much envy as when we’re outgunned on material goods.”What this basically means is that spending money on experiences, rather than stuff… can decrease envious behavior, which means you’ll be happier and healthier in the end.In other words, spending money on experiences can decrease this envious behavior, which means that we’ll be healthier and happier in the end.

 

Now is the time where I leave you with something extremely wise, and an action step so you can start spending your time and money on experiences instead of stuff.

** Inserts wise words here**

You already know what to do. Now it’s just time to do it.

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3 Questions To Figure Out Everything You’ve Ever Wanted

Figure Out Everything You've Ever Wanted

Figure Out Everything You’ve Ever Wanted

Playa Encuentro, Dominican Republic
11:59 am on a Saturday
Jan 27, 2018

Did you know that you can figure out exactly what you want out of life by asking yourself 3 simple questions?

It’s crazy to think about to be honest… That everything you’ve ever wanted can be broken down into 3 questions.

 

  1. Who do you want to be?

    – This is like when you were a kid and someone asked you what you wanted to be when you grew up… and you said an astronaut, or a pro athlete, or a unicorn trainer.
    – Think about what you would love to be able to answer when someone asked you that question.
    – That is where your attention should go.

  2. Where do you want to be?

    – By far one of the greatest things about being alive in today’s day and age is that an airplane can get us anywhere we want in the world, in 48 hours or less. Yeah, I know that it’s not that easy…
    – But shut that part of your brain down for a minute and bear with me.
    – It is entirely possible for you to go to an airport and fly somewhere right now, and figure it all out. This wasn’t always possible. Hell, right now you can drive someplace and get there in 24 hours. You can drive from NY to Florida in less than 24 hours. (I’ve done it)

  3. What do you want to do?

    – Now this is the tough part. Not many people know this, because they have never taken the time to actually ask themselves.
    – So, right now think about what you would do if money was no object to you. (the link there goes to an incredible video about what you would do if money was no issue)
    – Think about the stuff you would do every day. Would you work inside? How about outside? Would you do something that required your mind or your body like working with animals?
    – Seriously, think about this stuff. There’s jobs and businesses that already pay people to do these things. You can get paid to do pretty much anything you can imagine.

A letter wrote by Holly Butcher we all need to read

Holly Butcher

Before she died, 27-year-old Holly Butcher wrote a letter we all need to read

I came across this letter this morning and absolutely had to share it. Not just for myself, but as a reminder that each day is a gift.

I did not know Holly Butcher, but I believe this letter was meant to be shared, which is why I am sharing it here. Holly posted this on January 3, 2018 and died the next day. Cancer got the best of her, yet she still chose to share this list of life lessons on Facebook 24 hours before she lost her fight with Ewing’ sarcoma – a rare bone cancer.

She was 27 years old…

 Holly Butcher

“It’s a strange thing to realize and accept your mortality at 26 years young. It’s just one of those things you ignore. The days tick by and you just expect they will keep on coming; Until the unexpected happens. I always imagined myself growing old, wrinkled and grey- most likely caused by the beautiful family I planned on building with the love of my life. I’ve wanted that so bad it hurts.

That’s the thing about life; It is fragile, precious and unpredictable and each day is a gift, not a given right.

I’m 27 now. I don’t want to go. I love my life. I’m happy. I owe that to my loved ones. But the control is out of my hands.

I haven’t started this ‘note before I die’ so that death is feared – I like the fact that we are mostly ignorant to it’s inevitability. Except when I want to talk about it and it is treated like a ‘taboo’ topic that will never happen to any of us. That’s been a bit tough. I just want people to stop worrying so much about the small, meaningless stresses in life and try to remember that we all have the same fate after it all so do what you can to make your time feel worthy and great, minus the bullshit.

I have dropped lots of my thoughts below as I have had a lot of time to ponder life these last few months. Of course it’s the middle of the night when these random things pop in my head most!

Those times you are whinging about ridiculous things (something I have noticed so much these past few months), just think about someone who is really facing a problem. Be grateful for your minor issue and get over it. It’s okay to acknowledge that something is annoying but try not to carry on about it and negatively effect other people’s days.

Once you do that, get out there and take a freaking big breath of that fresh Aussie air deep in your lungs, look at how blue the sky is and how green the trees are; It is so beautiful. Think how lucky you are to be able to do just that – breathe.

You might have got caught in bad traffic today, or had a bad sleep because your beautiful babies kept you awake, or your hairdresser cut your hair too short. Your new fake nails might have got a chip, your boobs are too small, or you have cellulite on your arse and your belly is wobbling.

Let all that shit go.. I swear you will not be thinking of those things when it is your turn to go. It is all SO insignificant when you look at life as a whole. I’m watching my body waste away right before my eyes with nothing I can do about it and all I wish for now is that I could have just one more Birthday or Christmas with my family, or just one more day with my partner and dog. Just one more.

I hear people complaining about how terrible work is or about how hard it is to exercise – Be grateful you are physically able to. Work and exercise may seem like such trivial things … until your body doesn’t allow you to do either of them.

I tried to live a healthy life, in fact, that was probably my major passion. Appreciate your good health and functioning body- even if it isn’t your ideal size. Look after it and embrace how amazing it is. Move it and nourish it with fresh food. Don’t obsess over it.

Remember there are more aspects to good health than the physical body… work just as hard on finding your mental, emotional and spiritual happiness too. That way you might realise just how insignificant and unimportant having this stupidly portrayed perfect social media body really is. While on this topic, delete any account that pops up on your news feeds that gives you any sense of feeling shit about yourself. Friend or not. Be ruthless for your own well-being.

Be grateful for each day you don’t have pain and even the days where you are unwell with man flu, a sore back or a sprained ankle, accept it is shit but be thankful it isn’t life threatening and will go away.

Whinge less, people! .. And help each other more.

Give, give, give. It is true that you gain more happiness doing things for others than doing them for yourself. I wish I did this more. Since I have been sick, I have met the most incredibly giving and kind people and been the receiver of the most thoughtful and loving words and support from my family, friends and strangers; More than I could I ever give in return. I will never forget this and will be forever grateful to all of these people.

It is a weird thing having money to spend at the end.. when you’re dying. It’s not a time you go out and buy material things that you usually would, like a new dress. It makes you think how silly it is that we think it is worth spending so much money on new clothes and ‘things’ in our lives.

Buy your friend something kind instead of another dress, beauty product or jewellery for that next wedding. 1. No-one cares if you wear the same thing twice 2. It feels good. Take them out for a meal, or better yet, cook them a meal. Shout their coffee. Give/ buy them a plant, a massage or a candle and tell them you love them when you give it to them.

Value other people’s time. Don’t keep them waiting because you are shit at being on time. Get ready earlier if you are one of those people and appreciate that your friends want to share their time with you, not sit by themselves, waiting on a mate. You will gain respect too! Amen sister.

This year, our family agreed to do no presents and despite the tree looking rather sad and empty (I nearly cracked Christmas Eve!), it was so nice because people didn’t have the pressure of shopping and the effort went into writing a nice card for each other. Plus imagine my family trying to buy me a present knowing they would probably end up with it themselves.. strange! It might seem lame but those cards mean more to me than any impulse purchase could. Mind you, it was also easier to do in our house because we had no little kiddies there. Anyway, moral of the story- presents are not needed for a meaningful Christmas. Moving on.

Use your money on experiences.. Or at least don’t miss out on experiences because you spent all your money on material shit.

Put in the effort to do that day trip to the beach you keep putting off. Dip your feet in the water and dig your toes in the sand. Wet your face with salt water.

Get amongst nature.

Try just enjoying and being in moments rather than capturing them through the screen of your phone. Life isn’t meant to be lived through a screen nor is it about getting the perfect photo.. enjoy the bloody moment, people! Stop trying to capture it for everyone else.

Random rhetorical question. Are those several hours you spend doing your hair and make up each day or to go out for one night really worth it? I’ve never understood this about females .

Get up early sometimes and listen to the birds while you watch the beautiful colours the sun makes as it rises.

Listen to music.. really listen. Music is therapy. Old is best.

Cuddle your dog. Far out, I will miss that.

Talk to your friends. Put down your phone. Are they doing okay?

Travel if it’s your desire, don’t if it’s not.

Work to live, don’t live to work.

Seriously, do what makes your heart feel happy.

Eat the cake. Zero guilt.

Say no to things you really don’t want to do.

Don’t feel pressured to do what other people might think is a fulfilling life.. you might want a mediocre life and that is so okay.

Tell your loved ones you love them every time you get the chance and love them with everything you have.

Also, remember if something is making you miserable, you do have the power to change it – in work or love or whatever it may be. Have the guts to change. You don’t know how much time you’ve got on this earth so don’t waste it being miserable. I know that is said all the time but it couldn’t be more true.

Anyway, that’s just this one young gals life advice. Take it or leave it, I don’t mind!

Oh and one last thing, if you can, do a good deed for humanity (and myself) and start regularly donating blood. It will make you feel good with the added bonus of saving lives. I feel like it is something that is so overlooked considering every donation can save 3 lives! That is a massive impact each person can have and the process really is so simple.

Blood donation (more bags than I could keep up with counting) helped keep me alive for an extra year – a year I will be forever grateful that I got to spend it here on Earth with my family, friends and dog. A year I had some of the greatest times of my life.

..’Til we meet again.

Hol

Xoxo”

 

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