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A letter wrote by Holly Butcher we all need to read

Holly Butcher

Before she died, 27-year-old Holly Butcher wrote a letter we all need to read

I came across this letter this morning and absolutely had to share it. Not just for myself, but as a reminder that each day is a gift.

I did not know Holly Butcher, but I believe this letter was meant to be shared, which is why I am sharing it here. Holly posted this on January 3, 2018 and died the next day. Cancer got the best of her, yet she still chose to share this list of life lessons on Facebook 24 hours before she lost her fight with Ewing’ sarcoma – a rare bone cancer.

She was 27 years old…

 Holly Butcher

“It’s a strange thing to realize and accept your mortality at 26 years young. It’s just one of those things you ignore. The days tick by and you just expect they will keep on coming; Until the unexpected happens. I always imagined myself growing old, wrinkled and grey- most likely caused by the beautiful family I planned on building with the love of my life. I’ve wanted that so bad it hurts.

That’s the thing about life; It is fragile, precious and unpredictable and each day is a gift, not a given right.

I’m 27 now. I don’t want to go. I love my life. I’m happy. I owe that to my loved ones. But the control is out of my hands.

I haven’t started this ‘note before I die’ so that death is feared – I like the fact that we are mostly ignorant to it’s inevitability. Except when I want to talk about it and it is treated like a ‘taboo’ topic that will never happen to any of us. That’s been a bit tough. I just want people to stop worrying so much about the small, meaningless stresses in life and try to remember that we all have the same fate after it all so do what you can to make your time feel worthy and great, minus the bullshit.

I have dropped lots of my thoughts below as I have had a lot of time to ponder life these last few months. Of course it’s the middle of the night when these random things pop in my head most!

Those times you are whinging about ridiculous things (something I have noticed so much these past few months), just think about someone who is really facing a problem. Be grateful for your minor issue and get over it. It’s okay to acknowledge that something is annoying but try not to carry on about it and negatively effect other people’s days.

Once you do that, get out there and take a freaking big breath of that fresh Aussie air deep in your lungs, look at how blue the sky is and how green the trees are; It is so beautiful. Think how lucky you are to be able to do just that – breathe.

You might have got caught in bad traffic today, or had a bad sleep because your beautiful babies kept you awake, or your hairdresser cut your hair too short. Your new fake nails might have got a chip, your boobs are too small, or you have cellulite on your arse and your belly is wobbling.

Let all that shit go.. I swear you will not be thinking of those things when it is your turn to go. It is all SO insignificant when you look at life as a whole. I’m watching my body waste away right before my eyes with nothing I can do about it and all I wish for now is that I could have just one more Birthday or Christmas with my family, or just one more day with my partner and dog. Just one more.

I hear people complaining about how terrible work is or about how hard it is to exercise – Be grateful you are physically able to. Work and exercise may seem like such trivial things … until your body doesn’t allow you to do either of them.

I tried to live a healthy life, in fact, that was probably my major passion. Appreciate your good health and functioning body- even if it isn’t your ideal size. Look after it and embrace how amazing it is. Move it and nourish it with fresh food. Don’t obsess over it.

Remember there are more aspects to good health than the physical body… work just as hard on finding your mental, emotional and spiritual happiness too. That way you might realise just how insignificant and unimportant having this stupidly portrayed perfect social media body really is. While on this topic, delete any account that pops up on your news feeds that gives you any sense of feeling shit about yourself. Friend or not. Be ruthless for your own well-being.

Be grateful for each day you don’t have pain and even the days where you are unwell with man flu, a sore back or a sprained ankle, accept it is shit but be thankful it isn’t life threatening and will go away.

Whinge less, people! .. And help each other more.

Give, give, give. It is true that you gain more happiness doing things for others than doing them for yourself. I wish I did this more. Since I have been sick, I have met the most incredibly giving and kind people and been the receiver of the most thoughtful and loving words and support from my family, friends and strangers; More than I could I ever give in return. I will never forget this and will be forever grateful to all of these people.

It is a weird thing having money to spend at the end.. when you’re dying. It’s not a time you go out and buy material things that you usually would, like a new dress. It makes you think how silly it is that we think it is worth spending so much money on new clothes and ‘things’ in our lives.

Buy your friend something kind instead of another dress, beauty product or jewellery for that next wedding. 1. No-one cares if you wear the same thing twice 2. It feels good. Take them out for a meal, or better yet, cook them a meal. Shout their coffee. Give/ buy them a plant, a massage or a candle and tell them you love them when you give it to them.

Value other people’s time. Don’t keep them waiting because you are shit at being on time. Get ready earlier if you are one of those people and appreciate that your friends want to share their time with you, not sit by themselves, waiting on a mate. You will gain respect too! Amen sister.

This year, our family agreed to do no presents and despite the tree looking rather sad and empty (I nearly cracked Christmas Eve!), it was so nice because people didn’t have the pressure of shopping and the effort went into writing a nice card for each other. Plus imagine my family trying to buy me a present knowing they would probably end up with it themselves.. strange! It might seem lame but those cards mean more to me than any impulse purchase could. Mind you, it was also easier to do in our house because we had no little kiddies there. Anyway, moral of the story- presents are not needed for a meaningful Christmas. Moving on.

Use your money on experiences.. Or at least don’t miss out on experiences because you spent all your money on material shit.

Put in the effort to do that day trip to the beach you keep putting off. Dip your feet in the water and dig your toes in the sand. Wet your face with salt water.

Get amongst nature.

Try just enjoying and being in moments rather than capturing them through the screen of your phone. Life isn’t meant to be lived through a screen nor is it about getting the perfect photo.. enjoy the bloody moment, people! Stop trying to capture it for everyone else.

Random rhetorical question. Are those several hours you spend doing your hair and make up each day or to go out for one night really worth it? I’ve never understood this about females .

Get up early sometimes and listen to the birds while you watch the beautiful colours the sun makes as it rises.

Listen to music.. really listen. Music is therapy. Old is best.

Cuddle your dog. Far out, I will miss that.

Talk to your friends. Put down your phone. Are they doing okay?

Travel if it’s your desire, don’t if it’s not.

Work to live, don’t live to work.

Seriously, do what makes your heart feel happy.

Eat the cake. Zero guilt.

Say no to things you really don’t want to do.

Don’t feel pressured to do what other people might think is a fulfilling life.. you might want a mediocre life and that is so okay.

Tell your loved ones you love them every time you get the chance and love them with everything you have.

Also, remember if something is making you miserable, you do have the power to change it – in work or love or whatever it may be. Have the guts to change. You don’t know how much time you’ve got on this earth so don’t waste it being miserable. I know that is said all the time but it couldn’t be more true.

Anyway, that’s just this one young gals life advice. Take it or leave it, I don’t mind!

Oh and one last thing, if you can, do a good deed for humanity (and myself) and start regularly donating blood. It will make you feel good with the added bonus of saving lives. I feel like it is something that is so overlooked considering every donation can save 3 lives! That is a massive impact each person can have and the process really is so simple.

Blood donation (more bags than I could keep up with counting) helped keep me alive for an extra year – a year I will be forever grateful that I got to spend it here on Earth with my family, friends and dog. A year I had some of the greatest times of my life.

..’Til we meet again.

Hol

Xoxo”

 

Overcoming Fear In Less Than 5 Minutes

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How To Overcome Fear In Less Than 5 Minutes

Ever thought about Fear and what it actually means when you are “fearful” of something?

Honestly, if you live in the United States of America or another first world country, we’ve had it pretty easy. Think about this for just a moment. You could have been born in Cambodia during the Cambodian genocide, between 1975 and 1979, in which an estimated 1.5 to 3 million Cambodians died or were killed by the regime.

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Could have been just a few years after that in Zimbabwe. The Gukurahundi was a series of massacres of Ndebele civilians carried out by the Zimbabwe National Army from early 1983 to late 1987.

I was born in the USA in 1987, but if my family happened to have lived in Zimbabwe during that time period there is a chance I wouldn’t even be here…

That’s just the truth of how it is. I’ve been extremely blessed to have lived my life the way I have.

Right there are two separate instances where the meaning of FEAR would have been a lot more different to me if I happened to have been in either of those areas.

So for those of us who were lucky enough to have the opportunities in our lives, I put together this video that talks about overcoming fear.

In the video, you’ll see that I spoke about 2 instances where I addressed my fear head on.

One of them was when I did a cage free shark-dive in the Bahamas to address my fear of sharks. You can watch that video below or read more about it in this post about the Stuart’s Cove Shark Dive:

and the other was recently when I decided to run with the bulls in Pamplona, Spain. Both of those experiences were things that I was fairly terrified of. They were things that I thought “oh man that would be so cool to do“, and I committed to doing them.

The thing is, I could have easily backed out each time… and you would have had no idea I even cared to do these things.

I did them not because I wanted to brag about them, but let’s be honest, I do brag about them… to me it’s so damn cool that I did these things and I’m super proud of them. I did them because they scared me… and when things scare me, it’s usually a sign that I needed to face my fear head on.

What I’d love for you to do now (you don’t need to tell anyone) is to think about something you have been scared to do, but something that has always been of interest to you.

Write it down. Yes, I know. You’re probably on your phone or reading this on your laptop… but I want this to actually help you.

Take out that piece of paper and a pen and write down something you’re scared to do and take a look at it. Have people done it before safely? Is it an irrational fear that you are sure is irrational? Is it something you’ve been fearful of for as long as you can remember?

(that last one was me and sharks… I mean… JAWS.)

But now that it’s written down. It still might be scary. But think about it this way, it’s just writing on a piece of paper at this stage. It’s not like a shark suddenly appeared as soon as you wrote that down and is biting your head off. Right now in your hand, you hold your fear.

That means you’ve already conquered it in one way. You’ve addressed that it is there, and that you can see it and kind of feel it. 

Yeah yeah, it isn’t actually happening but bear with me for a minute.

Now that you see this activity or whatever it is, you can hop onto google and type it in to look up some stats. Maybe its that you’re scared of flying? You could look up how many people fly each year. That number is incredible. Maybe its moving to a new city (I’ve done this more times than I can count). Maybe it’s getting on the phone to make a call to someone you lost contact with over the years. We all have different things.

The simple fact that you wrote it down is awesome by the way. Most people don’t do it… that’s why most people never live to their full potential, but I know you’re different.

The next thing, if you’re crazy enough to give it a try, is to look up how you can do whatever it is you are scared of. If it’s flying, hop onto a travel site and plan a trip. Go through the process of picking a destination, a date and thinking what it will be like at this new place. Going through the website doesn’t mean you have to board the plane. You don’t even have to buy the ticket!

Going through the motions of setting up and planning to do the thing will make a shift happen in your mind. You’ll probably have that “oh shit” moment, where it becomes real. Stay with that feeling, get comfortable with it. I know you’ve seen that picture where it shows your comfort zone and how you’re supposed to do stuff outside of your comfort zone

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this feeling you’re having right now… that’s what it’s like outside of your comfort zone. It feels a little weird, doesn’t it? The good news is you’ll get more comfortable with the feeling the more you do these things… and you didn’t have to leave the house to do it!

Okay so now that you’ve done this… you have done it, right?

Once you’re good and ready and feeling all nervous… it’s time TO DO THE THING. Set a plan to do something towards it within the next 30 days.

Even scarier, right?

Don’t worry, it’ll be fine. You’ve got this. You are now someone who is comfortable in the uncomfortable. You’re a boss.

The next step is to simply do the thing. Yep, just like Nike says. Just Do It.

Simple Things That Will Help You Set Yourself Up For Success

Simple Things

Success Habits

There are a few simple things that I like to do in order to “stack my wins” up each day.

One of them for me is to get my coffee prepared the night before. I’ve found that the more “wins” I can get in a day, the better my overall day goes… so why not try to simplify as many of these wins as possible.

That way, I increase my chance of having a kick-ass day. What kind of daily wins do you have?

This short video shows you why I love building these “little wins” into my day, to make sure I come out on top.

The Unspoken Truth About Success & Why You Aren’t Successful Yet

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The Truth About Success is that Success isn’t easy. If it was, everyone would be wildly successful. If you aren’t successful yet, this could explain why…

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Most people are afraid to fail in life. Most people are afraid to be fearless, and to take risks. Most people are too afraid to push themselves to be the person they’ve always wanted to be, and it’s usually because they don’t want to leave their comfort zones.

That is why they fail.

It’s also the reason that a large percentage of people alive today are living lives that they aren’t happy with. The truth is that… success isn’t easy.

Some people might tell you that it is. Especially if you’ve ever come across those make money online videos on YouTube. You know the ones i’m talking about. You’ve probably been watching videos or listening to music and then you have to click “Skip ad” so you don’t hear the same BS over and over again.

The truth is that success takes a LOT of hard work. But, when the majority of people hear that something is going to be difficult… they shut down and decide against it. I mean, seriously. Who wants to work hard when you could just binge watch Netflix all weekend?

Exactly.

And while we’re at it, let me tell you this. You won’t ever succeed.

Whoa, whoa, whoa… that seems a little harsh, doesn’t it?

What about a happy medium?

Okay… let’s address this “happy medium”. You WILL be successful, but it won’t be easy. Is that better?

It’s starting to feel a little bit better in my gut seeing that written out. I’ve had success in both instances… Massive failures, and incredible success. Want to know why I’ve had both? I work my ass off.

If you know me personally, you know I love what I do. I enjoy diving deep into niches, learning about customer demographics and finding the best ways to create value for the consumer in the niche… and then helping map out how to go about creating systems that can be duplicated for your team members to follow.

But the thing is, I work… all the time. Sure, I can take off a ton of time and go on epic adventures for days at a time, or weeks… without any real change in my lifestyle. But it’s because during the times when you don’t hear from me, or see me, I’m deeply involved in building and working on my systems.

So the whole idea of “Success isn’t easy” is just that… it’s an idea.

and since we all have different ideas and different viewpoints on what is considered to be “easy”, it’s impossible to tell you that success is easy. For me, spending 60-100 hours a week working on a project that I care about is easy. For other people, hearing “60-100 hours a week” is like the worst nightmare ever.

I mean, jobs only make you work 40 hours a week and people get all upset over that.

The thing is, when you’re doing something you hate for 40 hours a week… it flat out sucks. It seems like every minute drags on and somehow this crazy Universe we live in has seemed to stop time… and the seconds drag on for minutes, and the minutes drag on for hours.

It’s mind-numbingly boring. It’s tedious work. It’s stuff you wouldn’t wish on your worst enemy. It’s…. work.

On the other hand, when it’s something you give a shit about… it’s awesome.

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The Truth About Success…

My girlfriend witnesses this first hand whenever I get an idea and immediately move towards implementing it. She says my eyes light up and its like a fire ignites within me.

and then I’ll work on the idea for hours on end, without even realizing that it had been a few hours since I took a break. Which means I must force myself to stop and take a break. Not that I want to, but because I know that my body functions better when I do.

This type of action seems to come in waves, and it isn’t always there. Sometimes it hits hard and i’ll have a week of terrific content creation, and other times I’ll not feel like doing a damn thing. It’s just like the ocean… the tides change and I’m just trying to surf them when the conditions are good.

The Truth About Success and Why It’s So Elusive…

Personally I think it has to do with what a person’s individual definition of success is. According to dictionary.com

[suh k-ses
noun
1. the favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors; the accomplishment of one’s goals.
2. the attainment of wealth, position, honors, or the like.

3. a performance or achievement that is marked by success, as by the attainment of honors:

The play was an instant success.

4. a person or thing that has had success, as measured by attainment of goals, wealth, etc.:

She was a great success on the talk show.
5. Obsolete. outcome.

Related: Success Isn’t About Who You ARE…

Look at those different meanings and then think about what success looks like to you. Is it achieving a certain financial goal? Is it getting a trophy? Is it recognition from your boss for a job well done? What about just finishing a project?

Think for a second… what does your version of success look like?

Get out a piece of paper and a pen and write out what success means to you.

My definition of success, for myself, is to be able to do whatever I want, whenever I want, with whoever I want, wherever I want.

Yes, I know that can be taken in a few different ways. But my idea of success is for me to have an open schedule to go do whatever it is that I want, whenever I want to do it. Let’s say there’s a super cool event that a friend of mine tells me about… I want to be able to drop everything and go do it, if I choose to do so. This very thing happened when I first learned about the Songkran Festival in Chiang Mai, Thailand.

My girlfriend and I met some new friends while we were traveling and they told us about this festival that was something that everyone should do… and we looked it up, it looked like an absolute blast… so we made the plan to attend that year (We actually went back this past year as well, it was that much fun)

That right there to me is success.

Is it possible to make success easier?

Well, I could tell you that yes… success is going to be easier for you than it is for others… but that would be a lie.

Because success depends on your personal viewpoint of it, it’s impossible for me to guarantee anything to you in this life. Until you know what success looks like to you, you’ll never achieve it.

Right now, if you have a computer or a phone and you have clean water, electricity and a house, you’re an incredible success to people who live in third-world countries who don’t have these things. But, because you’ve probably had this your whole life, you discount it for what it is.

You might even be earning over $100,000 a year right now, yet you still might not consider yourself a success because so-and-so makes $500,000 a year.

Until you figure out what success means to you, you’ll never achieve it. Truth be told, once you do achieve “success” according to your old definition, you’ll still probably feel like a failure because your goals will continue to grow as you do.

Fun, right? Oh the joy of Entrepreneurship. If you want to see a few of the ways that I’ve figured out how to start creating a beginner income from the internet, you can get my Beginner’s Guide to Internet Entrepreneurship guidebook and tutorial videos here.

 

Every Problem Has a Hidden Opportunity So Powerful It…

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Saturday, 11/11/2017

The other day I actually started writing out this blog post after re-watching the video I shot a few years back in Costa Rica. The video was on my blog over at Masterminding on the beach in Costa Rica. That video was recored after a really intense mastermind session we had. One that actually had a significant impact on my life and a few others who were lucky enough to attend.

One quote that really stood out when I was re-listening to this was…

“Each problem has a hidden opportunity so powerful that it literally dwarfs the problem.  The greatest success stories were created by people who recognized a problem and turned it into an opportunity.”

–Joseph Sugarman

This quote is so damn true. It often seems like the times where I’ve experienced my biggest successes have come after terrible failures. My business took off when I quit my jobs, moved to a foreign country and took a major chance. The problem was that I had no income anymore… the opportunity was that I learned how to create a business because of it.

It’s pretty incredible when you really stop and think about it. Everyday people you can hear people talk about problems that they have. There are thousands of problems everywhere, and many of these problems are BEGGING for these problems to be solved. That’s an opportunity right there.

What kind of problems are you experiencing?

Think for a second what kind of problems you’re currently experiencing… maybe it’s snowing where you live now. How much does it suck that the windshield freezes and your car is cold when you get in it? For me, that was a terrible part of my day. For me, I just moved south to get away from the cold. However, there was the opportunity to get one of those remote starters for your car. Problem solved.

What about problems related to your fitness? Fitbit created something incredible when they figured out setting the goal of 10,000 steps a day for people. It’s simple enough that it’s an easy goal to aim for… and you can track all of the steps through their little device.

The problem was that people forgot to be active in the traditional world we live in now… and the solution is to try to walk at least 10,000 steps a day. The solution was provided by them and now they have a massive business. Fitbit was valued at $8 BILLION in 2015.

How do you identify these problems?

Great question. Identifying problems comes down to simply paying attention to things that are happening around you. The next thing is to get creative about the solutions to these problems. It’s not going to be easy, but damn is it going to be fun.

The next time that you’re in a conversation and you notice that someone is complaining about something, pay attention. Ask a few questions about why they are so upset about the issue. If you ask then 3-5 times “why” you’ll get to the root of the problem. There is always a way to provide a solution to problems, but you need to be creative to solve the problem.

Paying attention means you’ll need to listen more than you speak as well. But, you know that already and should be listening more than you speak already.

Now it’s up to you…

I could try and tell you that I can help you with solving all your problems, but the truth is that it’s up to you. Every single day you’re going to experience problems in your life. It’s important to recognize these problems and to identify solutions to the problems.

You’ll start doing it for yourself, and then eventually you’ll end up solving other people’s problems as well… which could lead you into creating a business doing something that you’re totally kick ass at.

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