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Our self-image and our habits tend to go together. What’s cool about this is that if you change one, you will automatically change the other. Originally, the word “habit” meant a garment, yep that means that habits are like clothes.
You know what i’ve found out over the past few months of my personal journey in life?
Our habits are literally like garments that are worn by our personalities.
Our habits are not accidental. You may realize this fact, but some people don’t. I personally didn’t realize it until I was reading Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz(Amazon link). The reasons that we have habits is the same reason that we have the clothes that are currently in our drawers, they fit us. They are in congruence with who we are and have become a part of our unique personality.
When we consciously and deliberately take the time to develop new and better habits, our self-image tends to outgrow the old habits we had and tends to grow into a new pattern of habits.
Many people confuse habits with addictions, which is completely understandable. However, an addiction is something that you feel compelled to, and it’s also something that causes severe withdrawal symptoms. I’m not here to speak about addiction though, as that’s not my cup of tea. The only thing I feel “addicted” to is life and personal development, but I feel that those addictions are beneficial 😉
Habits are something that I have been constantly working on developing over the past few months/years and I feel that I can help shed some light on the subject of developing good habits. What makes me qualified to help you with this? Well, personally I’ve done a few 90 day challenges to change my health and grow my business. I’m someone who’s done it and has had some great results from doing it.
Habits are merely reactions and responses that we have learned to perform automatically without having to “think” or “decide” to do. An example of this is with juggling.
When I juggle, my hands don’t “decide” where to go to catch the ball. The reaction is something that is automatic now, because I have been juggling for over 14 years.
PS- you can learn how to juggle in a video course I put together. My hands merely know where to go because I have developed the habit of juggling.
I have programmed the muscle memory in my brain to know where my hands should be in order to catch the ball. The same is true when dancers are dancing, it’s become a habit and your feet merely go to where they’ve been programmed to go during dances.
Our attitudes, emotions and beliefs are something that also tend to become habitual. This can be a good thing if you actively choose to create good habits for each of these, but they can also become negatives for your life.
Over the course of our lives, we have “learned” that certain attitudes, ways of feeling and ways of thinking were “appropriate” for certain situations.
An example of this is to think about the last few parties that you were at. Think about this, do you tend to sit on a couch and strike up a conversation with someone, or are you someone who runs around and hangs out with everyone?
I tend to be a person who wanders and notice that I do this at all social gatherings that I go to. I’m not someone to just sit there and that’s become a part of my habits.
We tend to think, feel and act the same way when we are put in familiar situations. Think about yourself with this example, do you tend to do the same things over and over again? My bet is that you do.
We can modify, change or even reverse our habits by making a conscious decision and practicing or “acting out” the new habits we want to develop and program new responses into our lives.
Here are a few affirmations that you can start saying to yourself to acquire the “happiness habit”: Taken from Psycho-Cybernetics
Simple? Yes! The thing about habits is that they take 21 days to acquire and make a part of who you are. You can easily acquire the habit of happiness if you make a conscious effort to do so. You can get started today!
Also, if you are interested in learning more about the happiness habit, there is a course available called “The 11 Forgotten Laws” that will help you with acquiring more happiness.
Over the past few days I have been reading Dov Baron’s book, “Don’t Read This….Unless You Want More Money“(Affiliate link to buy the book) and have been really fascinated by what I’ve been learning from him. One of these things was the Law of Resonance, which to be honest with you I had never heard of. However, I was familiar with The Law of Attraction from things like The Secret and What The Bleep Do We Know?! but I had never come across the Law of Resonance…
So, of course I get curious and start doing more research and then I come back and share it with you fellas and ladies!
If you are anything like me, you probably understand that the Universe has certain scientific laws…such as the Law of Gravity, which keeps us from flying off of earth and into space. I’d totally love to fly so I sometimes wish I could change the law of gravity…but I haven’t figured out how to get around the law of gravity. The law of resonance is another strict law like the law of gravity.
The Law of Resonance
This law describes the way that everything in the universe is linked and how it all communicates to act as a “whole”. Now don’t get all freaked out on me, I’ll try to make it simple to grasp 🙂
Everything, that includes you, me and everything that we attract (including our feelings and emotions) are all connected. The way that we all are connected is through vibrations, or resonance.
What does Avatar have to do with this?
This movie was absolutely awesome. When I first saw it, I immediately felt like the Na’vi(the native people on Pandora) were onto something. They understood that there is a connection between all things on their planet and that all life was engaged in a connection, which meant that one thing would affect all things. The Na’vi not only understood this, but they also were guided by it.
They understood that everything in their environment is both in affect and effect with them. They understood that what their thoughts and feelings were, was affecting the life force of everything on Pandora.
This might be a little out of your thinking at this point….it was for me originally, so I completely understand what you’re thinking.
If you are anything like me, you may be getting excited about the Quantum Physics that’s behind this, however; some people may not quite grasp it. Basically Quantum Physics explains that at its most basic level that everything in the universe is vibrating energy. (Including you, your feelings, thoughts, etc) Everything about us has a vibration.
This short video is for anyone who likes to see the scientific truth behind Quantum Physics… (when I saw this, I was kinda shocked)
Check out what happens when one tuning fork is struck and the other isn’t…
As you’ll notice, when one fork is struck a note comes out. Ta-da!!! No surprise there, right?
Well, what’s cool about this is that only one of the forks was struck, however they both produced the same sound after the energy of the sound wave hit the other fork. There was no barrier put up by the second fork that said “no, I will not produce the same frequency as you”…it merely accepted and reflected the same frequency. An interesting thing here is that the Universe reacts the same way to our feelings and energies.
In your face enough?
When I first heard about this in the book, I literally walked over to my mirror and was staring at it for a while… could it be that the universe’s secret can be all around us in the form of a mirror? That is absolutely correct and it really was a slap in my face for me. I thought that I had understood how the law of attraction was working, but in reality I was a little hesitant still.
Now, I know that the universe merely acts as a reflecting mirror for my feelings/thoughts.
A little exercise that I want you to do…
Think about the last time you had a bad day…you know, the days where everything seemed to be going bad and the days that never seem to end. Guess what? There’s a reason for this and you can change it!!!! The universe is acting like a HUGE mirror on your feelings. If you are having bad feelings, guess what the universe is going to give you more of?
If you guessed bad feelings, pat yourself on the back. *pats self on back*
The universe doesn’t care to analyze and try to make our feelings change. We are the ones who are in charge of the way we feel and the universe merely reflects how we are feeling and gives us more of these feelings. Now if the tuning fork video didn’t really make sense before, go back and watch it again. Notice that the second fork begins to vibrate/resonate with the first. This is sympathetic resonance with the struck tuning fork. How crazy is that? I mean, the second one doesn’t use any effort, it just complies… the universe does the same thing 😉
The second tuning fork didn’t analyze whether it was a good idea to resonate with the first fork, it didn’t say “oh this is a bad thing or a good thing?”, it just responded to what it was receiving…the frequency from the first tuning fork. The universe is EXACTLY the same. It responds to what you are sending it.
Now here’s something else I want you to do… it’s easy though, so don’t get all worried.
Think of yourself as a living tuning fork sending out vibes for the next week and see what changes. Then, come back here and share what changes you experience. I’d love to have you share your thoughts on this and if it helps, please share some stories with others through the comments below.
This is my dream car that I will be buying at some point. My goal is to have it before I turn 25.
It’s the Tesla S from Tesla Motors and it ROCKS.
* – 300 mile range
* – 45 minute QuickCharge
* – 0-60 mph in 5.6 seconds
* – Seats 7 people
* – More cargo space than sedans
* – 2X as efficient as hybrids
* – 17 inch infotainment touchscreen
What do you think of it?
This law gave me the hardest time when I first read “The Go-Giver” however in “Go-Givers Sell More”, I have learned a very important concept that WAS mentioned in the Go-Giver but I had mis-interpreted it.
It is important that we feel grateful for receiving the sale. Not resent the fact that we forced a sale or merely made a sale. The sale has ultimately helped the person who bought the product/service. We have merely allowed for the exchange to happen and have helped move the customer along their journey of solving the problem.
I’ve always been aware of the yin and yang principles and the equal balance that this means.
There is a constant flow of the universe, a flow of giving and receiving. The rain falls and gives water to the earth, the sun evaporates the water and maintains an equal balance. The same is true with sales, there is an equal balance of someone giving and someone receiving. I needed to learn to accept that fact that I would be the one receiving monetary compensation for what I was doing. (This was hard for me to truly understand, but thinking of it this way has helped me)
It is a switch in mindset that allows for this law to work
As you are familiar with if you have ever spoken with a successful individual, one of the main traits that these people have is that of generosity. They also see that receiving is the other side of the spectrum of giving and are open to receiving. These people eagerly receive and delight in the reception just as they eagerly give and are delighted to pass on what they learn. Instead of going against the flow of the universe, they merely join in with the flow.
The Attitude of Gratitude (+1 point for rhyme)
Something that I often overlooked was all of the great things in my life, the great people and the great opportunities that I have. I definitely have taken a lot of it for granted and didn’t take the time to appreciate all that life had to offer. I am so appreciative of all that I have, my family and friends, my health, a place to live, an opportunity to get a college education, the ability to network and help people like you and the opportunities to leave a legacy behind.
By being grateful for what we already have, this helps us get into a state of being more receptive when it is our time to receive the compensation for our work or even the acknowledgements from our work.
What I’ve learned is that Genuine Go-Givers don’t only focus on giving…they’d be crazy for doing that! They are also aware of the gifts that they receive and are delighted by these gifts!
Blessings from out of nowhere…
I’m going to be honest with you about this part. I started this blog because I ultimately wanted to be able to make money online. I wanted to be able to build up my personal brand and create something that was valuable to Entrepreneur’s and help people better understand how to use the internet to build their business. What I didn’t realize was how much it would truly affect people’s lives. I thought “hey, I’m just one young entrepreneur, how many people can I really help?”.
However, the opportunities that have come out of Social Media networking and building up my blog have been amazing. I’ve had the opportunities to meet great people and great authors who I NEVER thought in a million years would take the time to talk to a kid from Waverly, NY like me…
I’ve realized that by creating valuable resources and things that genuinely help people, I have attracted people to me from all over the country, some from all around the world! It’s amazing how much the information that I have been learning and sharing has helped people. I think that if you are reading this and are unsure or stuck on the fence about getting a blog started to get over it. Just do it.
You have more knowledge and are learning lessons that can and most likely will help people. Please do yourself and start to share what you learn! I can’t promise that you will become wildly successful because of doing this, but there is a chance that you can influence one persons life, that could be worth it for you. Just be genuine and remember to provide value!
Plant seeds of value, relationships will develop and people will start to Know,Like and Trust you. The seeds will grow into full fledged trees that have networks of 250-100,000 people and you never know who is going to share your story and how it might connect you, potentially landing you a great job or connecting you with your best client ever.
I’d like to leave you with a few words of encouragement.
Create value; touch people’s lives; build networks; be real; stay open.
Plant; trust; harvest.
and if you haven’t bought Go-Givers Sell More yet….I recommend that you get your mouse ready to click the link below and buy the book. It WILL change your business AND life… in a good way 😉
As a salesperson, we were probably told to “step outside of your comfort zone.” I know that when I first got started and was cold calling, I sure wasn’t acting like myself… I was all hesitant and nervous because I was scared people would reject me and tell me they hated me. I never had anyone tell me they hated me, but I also never made any sales… if that sounds like you, this post will be worth reading.
You will need to grow your comfort zone..
I’m not saying that you can not change at all and still be successful, that would be a lie and I am as honest as I can be with you here. You will need to change and expand your comfort zone or you won’t be successful. What you need to realize is that growing your comfort zone allows for YOU to determine when and how big of changes you make in your life. If you want to coach 100 people a year, you will need to first start off small, coaching maybe 5-10 people for the first month or 2 to get used to what you need to be doing to be a successful coach. This allows for you to grow your comfort level and allows for you to control your comfort level. I personally had a hard time getting in front of the camera to make marketing videos, but I did not when juggling… strange, but I guess I felt the information I have in my head isn’t valuable..silly me.
Once I created my first video teaching a few MLM tips that I picked up and received some feedback on the video, I realized that it wasn’t that bad and I have been creating videos since 🙂 (If you need someone to help you get started with getting videos up, I’d love to review the videos and help you get more comfortable with it, or I recommend talking to @GabeStrom as he is brilliant at video marketing and being comfortable in front of the camera!)
In sales…if you’re uncomfortable, do you think the other person will be comfortable?
I know that when I’m listening to someone talk and they seem uncomfortable, it really affects how I feel about the situation/seminar/class. I seem to sort of lose some focus as I feel the presentation isn’t allowing the person/teacher to be themselves. I don’t like it when people have to act like someone else. It’s important to be who you are and be true to yourself. Crack some jokes if you feel it will help you create bonds with your audience, reference news topics that interest you and might be of interest to your followers, they will appreciate it. It also allows for them to bond with you more.
This happens with dating as well, I’ve been back on the dating scene and I see some people who are on first or second dates and they have the whole “uncomfortable factor” where both people sit there a little awkwardly. I’m not going to say it’s not awkward for me on first dates, however I basically just sit back and be myself, cracking some jokes and having fun. If it doesn’t work out, at least i’ll walk away with a friend. The same thing is important for everything you do in marketing. You need to be able to be yourself and really enjoy what you are doing, some people will like it and buy from you and other’s may just view you as a friend and this could lead to some referrals to your business!
Authenticity in presentations
Let’s face it, when someone is not being authentic in a presentation or is not really there in the present, you can totally see it. They might be thinking about something that happened earlier in the day or maybe what kind of beer they are going to drink tonight at the bar. To be truly effective in delivering your message, you need to be present. Your mind needs to be focused on your desired outcome.
With the Internet, all information is available literally at our finger tips within seconds and freely a lot of the time. Giving people information doesn’t give people value, it simply steals their time. It’s no longer just about giving information, but it’s all about giving an actual meaning to the information. Maybe putting it into a story form to teach them a lesson or creating a video that captivates the viewer and takes them on a journey of self-discovery.
Listening and why you NEED to start doing it…
We’ve got 2 ears and 1 mouth just like this little guy, but we often overlook that fact…
The thing about great communicators and how they are truly authentic is that the greater half of communication lies in how well you actually hear what the other person is saying…not in what you say or how you say it.
Great salespeople are those who have learned to become great communicators by listening. They listen because they are interested in what the other person has to say and to learn from that person. NOT because they just want to make a sale.
Turning in the direction of the skid..
When dealing with potential customers, they often have issues that arise. As a person in my position, a common objective I hear when approaching offline businesses about online marketing is that “this seems like a waste of money” and I immediately can relate to them, because I have worked with businesses that thought online marketing would be a waste of money….and guess what, these businesses have benefited 🙂
By putting myself in their shoes and understanding where they are coming from with their business, I can relate that marketing online can be a scary medium to advertise. What I try to get to is the root of why they feel it is a little scary and why they feel it might be a waste of money. By finding out what type of results they are interested in attaining from this medium of advertising, I can better help them with their advertising budgeting or I can help them realize that this might not be the right choice for them at this time.
When asking for a sale, you still need to be authentic…but how?
Alright, here’s a cool little tip for asking for a sale and still serving the other person first.
Apply no pressure and provide an escape. Instead of trying to close your prospect and get them upset…provide an escape for the other person. “If you can’t do it, I’ll definitely understand.” These 8 words allow for you to open up the selling process and put the ball in their court. This completely separates you from traditional salespeople and will stand out in the mind of your prospect. This eliminates the pressure and allows for them to be more relaxed, ultimately making the right decision for them.
I’d highly recommend picking up a copy of “Go-Givers Sell More” to learn more about these concepts. You can get a copy at Amazon by clicking the link below:
Also, if you are learning the Laws of Stratospheric Success, your next law is The Law of Receptivity