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I was on the phone earlier today(June 16) with Ori Bengal, @CouchSurfingOri on twitter and I had a serious question to ask him that has to do with one of his specialties and something that I really want to bring into my life…..Travel.
You probably don’t know, but I was asked to go to the Philippines for 3 months to train a team to handle Social Media Marketing and Online Marketing campaigns for businesses. Basically I’ll be training a team on what I am an expert in and then having them handle this for my clients(possibly you ).
I personally think it’s awesome that I can leverage my mind by teaching others the information that I have learned. By teaching people; I also learn more which makes me happier. 🙂
This is my first time writing a blog post like this so I’m just going to spit out a bunch of the feelings that I experienced while being on the phone and realizing that I can actually do this. I, Chris Hughes, have the opportunity to live outside of the United States and experience something that I never thought I’d really be able to do…move to a foreign country.
it’s feelings like this that really seem to shape our lives, well at least for me that have helped shape my life so far. I love experiencing these feelings as that’s when I really grow as a person…
I honestly can say I am so excited that I am nervous about this point of my life. I’m going to be officially done with my Bachelor’s education and moving onto a new part of my life. I’m also a little nervous about this post because, well..it’s different. It’s out there, it’s not normal marketing stuff as much as it is personal development and life lessons that I have. Oh well, we will see what happens. Maybe you’ll even enjoy this type of post more than you enjoy my marketing stuff… be sure to let me know in the comments after you finish reading.
So a little background on my life right now:
Now you know a little about what position I am in in my life. You know, confused about what exactly life is supposed to be like, unsure about the future, unsure about what I want to do as a job, what I want to do for a career, what I want to do for fun, and who I want to ultimately be. I’m thinking that living a life like Sir Richard Branson would be an awesome thing to do… but so would living on a beach teaching surf lessons to tourists…well in that case, so would living in the jungle with leading zip-lining trips as my job. At this point in my life, I could maybe even pursue a career teaching yoga classes in the middle of a major city for all I know?
Maybe even hosting leadership camps for businesses and helping people become better at establishing successful teams. The world really is full of opportunities and I don’t know what I’m going to pursue.
I want you to ask yourself this question. Do you really know what you want to be when you grow up?
Even if you are a grown up, what did you want to be as a kid that you put off because you were told it wasn’t going to be a safe choice? I know that most people wanted to be an astronaut, doctor, professional basketball player(this was me), or maybe even a world class juggler. However, society is always trying to force us to do whats safe. I’m not sure if I believe that “doing whats safe” is the way to go at this part of my life.
This is exactly why I feel like heading to the Philippines is a smart choice for me. It will allow me to pursue one of my dreams and travel to the Philippines, save me money, and be a great business experience.
Should I go? Should I stay? Should I wait to move out to California until AFTER I have saved the money to live there? It’s now your turn to participate in this and let me know if you’ve had any travel experiences or if you have any advice for me…. oh…by the way, I’m definitely going to be going to the Philippines. Don’t miss me too much 😉
I just finished watching the movie “The Pursuit of Happyness” with Will Smith playing Chris Gardner, a man who was at the lowest low yet followed his heart and ended up on top of the world.
I got really inspired after watching the movie so I thought i’d share with you a little bit about my personal pursuit of happiness.
According to Merriam-Webster’s dictionary Happiness is:
Main Entry: hap·pi·ness
Date: 15th century
1 obsolete : good fortune : prosperity
2 a : a state of well-being and contentment : joy b : a pleasurable or satisfying experience
3 : felicity, aptness
So according to the dictionary, happiness can be obsolete, good fortune, and prosperity. I personally believe it’s ALL of them + health, friendships, relationships, an active lifestyle, time for reflection, meditation and gratitude.
It’s impossible to define happiness.
Happiness can’t truly be defined in my opinion because it’s something that is constantly changing for each individual person. Last year what made me happy is different than what makes me happy this year. When I first started college almost 4 years ago, the things that made me happy were: Partying, partying, excessive drinking, skipping classes and being away from home and did I mention partying?
Now, the things that make me happy are: personal development, working out, eating healthy, hanging out with friends, reading, inspiring others, learning new things, experiencing new things, meeting young attractive interesting girls, playing and watching sports, being at the beach, and the list goes on.
However, my list doesn’t include partying nearly as much as it did merely 4 years ago. In fact, some weekends I end up not partying at all and staying in for the night to read or do work to get me ahead(nerd alert). Life really has challenged me over the past 4 years and I absolutely am in love with the struggle/triumphs.
I’ve learned so much on my “pursuit of happiness” that I am actually happy with myself. I work out daily doing P90X With Chris, eat healthy and have been getting more clients doing what I LOVE (helping offline businesses make money using the Internet). I am planning on moving to Southern California in September after I graduate from Buffalo State and feel that that area is a good move for me at this point in my life. The only thing I currently don’t have right now is an awesome relationship with a girl who challenges me to be more each and every day, both in my personal life and business life. However, I’m not worried about that because there are so many women on this planet that I know there are more out there who fit me perfectly. (I’m picky, very, very picky) Could you be that woman? 😉 (I hope San Diego is ready for me haha)
So what really constitutes happiness?
When you wake up in the morning do you dread getting out of bed or do you spring up like someone just told you that you won the lottery? I personally struggle getting up in the morning some day’s because Buffalo weather isn’t 60-80 degrees and sunny each day with a beach nearby(that’s my ideal morning). However for the majority of the mornings I wake up feeling ready to take on the day, to do my workout, do my homework, go to classes, and get some work done to improve myself in some way or another.
Throughout the day I try to do things that make ME happy. Sometimes it’s cracking jokes to people working at the restaurants or stores I go to, or in classes. Other times it’s doing something nice for someone else. Sometimes it happens to be picking something up for someone that dropped something(this happened like 5 times at Cocoa Beach, I caught 2 frisbee’s, a football and caught some little girls bucket before it swept out into the ocean. I think it was part of my path for the day) things like this make me happy. Putting out POSITIVE vibes and truly making a difference in someone’s life, no matter how small it is.
After watching this movie, it really made me think about the actual PURSUIT that Happiness takes us on. It’s not a final destination but more about the actual journey that we take every single day. It’s all about finding one thing that you can do everyday that will put a smile on your face and make you feel all mushy and good inside that truly determines the success of a day. I heard a great quote in an audio interview I heard from David DeAngelo’s “Interviews with Dating Guru’s” program. The quote was:
“At the end of your life when you are sitting on your death bed, you want to be able to say….I was happy most of the time. That truly defines happiness”
I’d love to hear your comments about what you think about happiness. What makes you happy? What are your thoughts on this? I’d love to hear them below.
This is my dream car that I will be buying at some point. My goal is to have it before I turn 25.
It’s the Tesla S from Tesla Motors and it ROCKS.
* – 300 mile range
* – 45 minute QuickCharge
* – 0-60 mph in 5.6 seconds
* – Seats 7 people
* – More cargo space than sedans
* – 2X as efficient as hybrids
* – 17 inch infotainment touchscreen
What do you think of it?
I’ve got a question for you and would love to have your input. This is a little different from the traditional “blog post”, however I felt that this would be a great way for me to get to know you. So, you’re going to need to participate a little bit if you want.
Average day means: stuff you could do everyday and not die or get sick of
No limitations: no financial limitations, geopgraphical, health, limiting people, nothing
Consequences: not stuff that you could get “into trouble” for
Please leave your feedback on what your perfect day would be! I’d love to learn more about YOU!
Things to consider:
Where would you live?
What would your house look like? What would it smell like?
What time would you wake up?
What would yo do in the morning? Perfect breakfast?
Where would you spend the first half of your day?
What would you have for lunch and who would you eat with?
Who would your friends be? What would their behaviors be?
What would you do for personal fulfillment?
What life purpose would you strive for?
What time would you start work?
What would you actually DO at work?
Get down to the mundane stuff and it will help you with getting to where you want to be. If you’d like, I’d love for you to create a blog post and link it back to this post!
We all experience tough times in our lives, it is what we do during these times that decides where we will be in a few years. These experiences shape our future and we can choose to power through them, or we can choose to do absolutely nothing. For both of our sakes, I hope that you choose to power through them!
If you believe that your life is getting worse and worse, whether it be physically, financially, and emotionally your life really is getting worse and worse.
However, there is something that you can do about it. This thing is to change your perspective on how you view each individual situation and how you react to it. Life’s opportunities for advancement and financial achievement come from people. Verbal and written encouragement come from people. It is true that specific people are put in our life for a particular reason, but in general, it is the people who are the delivery vehicle for opportunity and encouragement.
Knowing that your opportunities and encouragement comes from other people, why are you not getting your fair share of these? The simplest reason for this is that NO ONE WANTS TO BE AROUND YOU.
If no one wants to be around us, we are not going to be offered opportunities and encouragement because they flat out don’t want to be around us, let alone offer us opportunities to be better.
The opposite of this is also true. There are certain people who seem to be getting opportunity after opportunity as well as a ton of encouragement. People who’s lives are getting better and better by the day. Each day they are offered a new opportunity or offered encouragement to do better than they previously have and this helps them to constantly improve and be better. This individual also never seems to be discouraged, but WHY?!
The reason why is that this person is a ‘people magnet’
This person is fun, happy, and exciting. This person is offered more opportunities and encouragement because they naturally attract it to them by being a people magnet.
“If you want folks to believe in you, then it really helps if they like you.”
Simply put…You want to become a person that others want to be around! No matter where you are in your life, you can change. You can become someone who people want to be around but it will take time.. A good book to read about this is “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie and if you click on that link, you’ll get a review of the book.
By becoming a person that others want to be around, you are granted the greatest success secret in existence. “A man or woman who has become someone others want to be around holds the world by the tail. He can get a meeting with any executive. Why? Because he is loved and appreciated by the executive’s assistant! He gets the listing, gets the sale or the promotion. He gets the extra help, the extra time, and the pay. He gets the chance, the second chance, and the benefit of the doubt. And all because people like him.” -The Noticer
“What is is about me that other people would change if they could?”
This single question can help you to become more liked by people. It may be hard to deal with up front, but it’s supposed to be. Life isn’t meant to be easy, now is it?
Other great questions that you can ask yourself are:
What is it about the way I act that other people would change if they could?
What is it about the way I talk that other people would change if they could?
These are life changing questions and I hope you take the time to answer each one of these.
If you are in a difficult situation in your life, you should take the time to answer these questions and be absolutely truthful to yourself about your answers. Don’t fluff up anything, get down to the core. You may be going through one of the hardest points in your life, just remember that it can and will get better BUT you must take certain steps to getting to the best parts of your life.