Something that has been on my mind a lot lately is the fact that some people will always expect you to give them everything once you become successful.
Over the past couple months i’ve been experiencing quite a bit of success with different ventures I have been involved with and it seems that ever since this has happened, I have people expecting me to just give them stuff for free. I even wrote a full blog post about why I don’t do free consulting anymore that addresses why I don’t just give away my information anymore.
While I still do like helping friends, I’m not going to do it for them. I’ll give them an idea, but it’s up to them to actually work hard and make themselves successful.
It’s amazing to me that this happens, but I also can see why it is happening more now than ever to me.
I can remember when I was struggling, I would often hope and pray that someone would help pull me out of my slump and help me make the big bucks. I’m grateful to those mentors of mine who saw something in me and helped teach me, and I know they are happy because i’ve actually taken action on what they’ve taught me.
However I see people all the time who expect me to build their business for them, or to just give them my money because I have it.
I believe its part of the lottery mentality….simply hoping that you would strike it rich because you did one little thing (bought a ticket). There’s a reason that 99% of the people who play the lottery do not win the lottery…
Its simply that not everyone can win the lottery, the same as how not everyone can be successful.
It might piss you off to hear this
I know that if someone told me that, I’d say “go f*$% yourself man, i’m going to be successful.” and if you got upset when you read that not everyone can be successful, you have a chance to be successful.
There are some situations in which people expect for you to do everything for them, without ever doing anything themselves. You may have met or worked with people who have had everything handed to them their entire lives and it might frustrate you as well.
I was the youngest child in my family and I know that my brother’s felt that I was always given things my whole life, and I know for a while I was given a lot from my parents. That’s part of being “the baby” and I still love that I’m the baby of the family.
My breakthrough happened when I realized that if something was going to happen in my life, it was 100% up to me to make it happen. It wasn’t up to my parents, my brothers or my friends…but up to me. Entirely up to this kid who I see in the mirror every single morning.
This is when I started reading like a mad man, spending all of my money on books and courses to learn about marketing and everything business. I submersed myself in information. I read everything I could get my hands on to learn all types of information on marketing, psychology, relationships, sales, team building, leadership, happiness and even information on how attraction works.
While I was doing this, I would test out stuff that I was learning. I would speak differently than I was comfortable with, learning how to command respect and to impact people. I did things that would scare me and I surrounded myself with people who would force me to grow.
Sure, it scared the living shit out of me at the time. But I’ve gotta admit, today I am so so happy that I did those things.
I’m sitting here right now living outside of the United States, with plans to visit more of the world in 2013 and couldn’t be happier.
The reason I’m in this position now is because I put myself through all of the hard times and kept my head up and kept pushing forward. Instead of just giving up or expecting people to just give me my success, I went out there and took it.
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Think about that for a second…
“Success comes from taking the initiative and following up…Persisting.”
It doesn’t come from sitting on your ass everyday dreaming for something to happen. It comes from taking things into your own hands.
When things get ugly and you are in a slump, keep pushing forward. Slumps happen, it’s all a part of the cycle of life. We have to fail in order to really love it when we’re at the peaks.
Thinking back, I’ve had less than a dollar in my bank account and still pushed on. It scared me, but I sure am glad I did it.
I’ve found that the problem with most people is that they just don’t want it bad enough.
Sure, they’ll tell you that they will do anything it takes to succeed. They’ll tell you that they’ll wake up early and stay up late to get those extra minutes or hours in the day to push their project forward.
But we all know that Action Speaks Louder Than Words.
and what I’ve noticed is that a lot of people love talking the talk… but not many people actually walk the walk.
if you are someone who loves talking the talk, congratulations to you. It will make you feel better temporarily to talk about what you would do or you will do, but in the end it’s all just talk.
It all comes down to taking massive action. To putting your ass on the line and doing what’s necessary to make sure you succeed with whatever goals you set yourself.
If you’ve been lying to yourself, you can use this to wake up and to kick your ass into gear.
Today could be a changing point in your life if you let it.
However, the choice is yours.
I’m simply here to share with you what i’ve learned and hopefully push you in the right direction towards achieving the goals you set.
If you’ve always wanted to start a business, you should.
or you can continue to live your life the same way you always have, and always get the same thing you’ve always gotten.
The choice truly is yours.