Is The Pursuit of Happiness A Bunch Of BS?

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I just finished watching the movie “The Pursuit of Happyness” with Will Smith playing Chris Gardner, a man who was at the lowest low yet followed his heart and ended up on top of the world.

I got really inspired after watching the movie so I thought i’d share with you a little bit about my personal pursuit of happiness.

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According to Merriam-Webster’s dictionary Happiness is:
Main Entry: hap·pi·ness
Pronunciation: \ˈha-pē-nəs\
Function: noun
Date: 15th century

1 obsolete : good fortune : prosperity
2 a : a state of well-being and contentment : joy b : a pleasurable or satisfying experience
3 : felicity, aptness

So according to the dictionary, happiness can be obsolete, good fortune, and prosperity. I personally believe it’s ALL of them + health, friendships, relationships, an active lifestyle, time for reflection, meditation and gratitude.

It’s impossible to define happiness.

Happiness can’t truly be defined in my opinion because it’s something that is constantly changing for each individual person. Last year what made me happy is different than what makes me happy this year. When I first started college almost 4 years ago, the things that made me happy were: Partying, partying, excessive drinking, skipping classes and being away from home and did I mention partying?

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Now, the things that make me happy are: personal development, working out, eating healthy, hanging out with friends, reading, inspiring others, learning new things, experiencing new things, meeting young attractive interesting girls, playing and watching sports, being at the beach, and the list goes on.

However, my list doesn’t include partying nearly as much as it did merely 4 years ago. In fact, some weekends I end up not partying at all and staying in for the night to read or do work to get me ahead(nerd alert). Life really has challenged me over the past 4 years and I absolutely am in love with the struggle/triumphs.

I’ve learned so much on my “pursuit of happiness” that I am actually happy with myself. I work out daily doing P90X With Chris, eat healthy and have been getting more clients doing what I LOVE (helping offline businesses make money using the Internet). I am planning on moving to Southern California in September after I graduate from Buffalo State and feel that that area is a good move for me at this point in my life. The only thing I currently don’t have right now is an awesome relationship with a girl who challenges me to be more each and every day, both in my personal life and business life. However, I’m not worried about that because there are so many women on this planet that I know there are more out there who fit me perfectly. (I’m picky, very, very picky) Could you be that woman? ;)  (I hope San Diego is ready for me haha)

So what really constitutes happiness?

When you wake up in the morning do you dread getting out of bed or do you spring up like someone just told you that you won the lottery? I personally struggle getting up in the morning some day’s because Buffalo weather isn’t 60-80 degrees and sunny each day with a beach nearby(that’s my ideal morning). However for the majority of the mornings I wake up feeling ready to take on the day, to do my workout, do my homework, go to classes, and get some work done to improve myself in some way or another.

Throughout the day I try to do things that make ME happy. Sometimes it’s cracking jokes to people working at the restaurants or stores I go to, or in classes. Other times it’s doing something nice for someone else. Sometimes it happens to be picking something up for someone that dropped something(this happened like 5 times at Cocoa Beach, I caught 2 frisbee’s, a football and caught some little girls bucket before it swept out into the ocean. I think it was part of my path for the day) things like this make me happy. Putting out POSITIVE vibes and truly making a difference in someone’s life, no matter how small it is.

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After watching this movie, it really made me think about the actual PURSUIT that Happiness takes us on. It’s not a final destination but more about the actual journey that we take every single day. It’s all about finding one thing that you can do everyday that will put a smile on your face and make you feel all mushy and good inside that truly determines the success of a day. I heard a great quote in an audio interview I heard from David DeAngelo’s “Interviews with Dating Guru’s” program. The quote was:

“At the end of your life when you are sitting on your death bed, you want to be able to say….I was happy most of the time. That truly defines happiness”

I’d love to hear your comments about what you think about happiness. What makes you happy? What are your thoughts on this? I’d love to hear them below.

About Chris Hughes Chris loves learning, going on adventures, surfing and having fun. Chris on Google+

  • Davidbeking April 10, 2010, 8:54 pm

    Awesome post man! I think that in order to be happy you have to do what happy people do… Do what you love and experience joy in as many ways as you can throughout life… I actually finished listening to the audio book “Happy for no reason” yesterday and got a lot out of it… it's real good! will write a blog post reviewing it tonight!

    Keep it up man!

    David

  • Jason Markow April 10, 2010, 8:55 pm

    Great post here Chris. I think you are heading in the right direction. I didn't know you were heading to my town (SD) in September! Hit me up when you get out here. I would love to meet up, paint the town red, and maybe collaborate on a project or two.

    Well done.

  • Jim April 10, 2010, 8:58 pm

    What great advice. I used to be unhappy person but then I faced reality. I could either feel drenched about feeling sorry about myself and do nothing or do something about it.

    Hence, I am working out with P90x and on Day 14. I also know I have great friends and family to support me whenever. I will eventually find Ms. Right someday and know I will be extremely happy.

  • Chris Hughes April 10, 2010, 9:39 pm

    let me know when that blogs up! I've never read/heard of that book! I'll get at you later for more info, or feel free to share it here when it's done!

  • Chris Hughes April 10, 2010, 9:40 pm

    Thanks Jason! I've got to get out there in August to check out the area & pick out a place to stay. I want to come for like a week or 2 to get a feel for the area and meet some people :)

    I'll definitely be down for collaborating and helping rock the world!!! San Diego is going to be awesome I can't wait. :-D

  • Chris Hughes April 10, 2010, 9:51 pm

    Hey Jim thanks! Our happiness seems to be entirely based on how we face reality as you said! I am so glad that you started to do something about it :)

    Wohooo 2 weeks in, I'll be here to help you out if you need any help as well. Just feel free to let me know if you need anything! You are right about Ms. Right too, there's so many women out there. Think abundance!

  • Krista April 14, 2010, 8:50 pm

    Chris,
    Great movie, I enjoyed that one when I saw it a while back. I appreciate your thoughts on happiness (or “happyness”)…
    I believe happiness is a mindset, much like success, prosperity, etc. We can choose to be happy despite our feelings or circumstances. I choose to be happy. ;-)

  • Chris Hughes April 15, 2010, 12:17 am

    haha I love how in the movie it's spelled happyness and on the cover it's happyness… it seems like the correct way to spell it? However…the English language is pretty tricky with things.

    You're absolutely right, happiness is definitely a mindset and once we learn to “tap into” it, it seems to be abundant in everything we do! I love your positivity and happiness Krista and appreciate you taking the time to stop on over and comment :)

  • Eddie Espiritu April 15, 2010, 12:08 pm

    Chris, happiness to me is understanding my true purpose in life, my Faith, and my family. Everything else falls into place as I keep my priorities straight.

    Eddie

  • debbiestevens April 15, 2010, 4:29 pm

    Hi Chris,

    For one so young, you have a great grasp of what's important in life. I especially liked this:
    “It’s all about finding one thing that you can do everyday that will put a smile on your face and make you feel all mushy and good inside that truly determines the success of a day. ” Living your passions is what it's all about. Kudos for grasping that so early in your life.

  • karatedar April 15, 2010, 5:16 pm

    Chris,
    Happyness is such an amazing movie—one of those that I can watch over and over again. Happiness to me is reaching goals, being surrounded by amazing family and friends and thinking and acting outside the box. For example, I just got my hair cut and purchased a purple flower to wear on the side of the new do. I doubt that too many women (my age) would do that, but it really made me happy!

    Southern CA is a happening place to live, Chris. We'll welcome you!

  • karatedar April 15, 2010, 5:16 pm

    Chris,
    Happyness is such an amazing movie—one of those that I can watch over and over again. Happiness to me is reaching goals, being surrounded by amazing family and friends and thinking and acting outside the box. For example, I just got my hair cut and purchased a purple flower to wear on the side of the new do. I doubt that too many women (my age) would do that, but it really made me happy!

    Southern CA is a happening place to live, Chris. We'll welcome you!

  • Chris Hughes April 15, 2010, 5:29 pm

    Awesome Eddie! I find that family is definitely a major part of my happiness as well :)

  • Chris Hughes April 15, 2010, 5:30 pm

    Hey Debbie! It's taken me a while to really learn about what makes me happy and I know that the things that do make me happy will continue to change over my life, but that's the beauty of it all, right?

    Thanks for the kind words, I really appreciate them :)

  • Chris Hughes April 15, 2010, 5:32 pm

    I definitely am glad that I bought the movie as well, as I find myself watching it from time to time. I like that, reaching goals is definitely something that helps happiness!

    I love that you got your fresh hair cut and the flower to go along with it. It's what makes US happy that truly matters and if it makes you happy then that's what matters :) I bet it'll put a smile on a few other peoples faces who see you as well!

    I'm excited to move out there. Can you recommend any good places for a 22 year old single guy like myself? I'd love some input :)

  • brucebackman April 16, 2010, 2:28 pm

    Hey Chris…I think you hit it right on in the end there…the pursuit or the journey is really what brings the life. The end goal simply gives us a path to follow. If we think we will be happy with whatever end we desire we are certainly deceiving ourselves. I know for myself that when I am pursuing a thing and reach it I am ready to now head to the next level that is opened up by the reaching of the first goal…thus keeping the journey alive and pursuing growth along the way. This process seems to be what actually brings about the happiness…maybe it's just me?

  • Edward April 16, 2010, 5:26 pm

    Hey Chris,

    Thanks for this very thought provoking post. I had never thought of happiness this way before. I too enjoyed that movie with Will Smith. It should what can happen when you have a goal in mind and the determination to achieve it no matter what. Anything is possible!

    Happiness to me should not be conditional. I believe it is a choice in how we react or respond to the situations that occur in the moments of our life. There are some fundamental truths about giving and receiving that I believe allow happiness and joy to move through ones journey of life. We have been given the opportunity to experience anything in this world. It is up to us how we fulfill that and make it happen.

    Thanks again.

    Make it a great day!
    God Bless,
    -ed

  • Kaitlyn Aliano April 16, 2010, 6:34 pm

    You're moving to Southern California!? NOOO.

  • Steve L. Vernon April 19, 2010, 9:43 pm

    Hey Chris – what a refreshing blog! I'm definitely a fan already! Would love for you to come join us on the Networking Superstars Tribe Facebook page and share your ideas there, too!

  • Chris Hughes April 19, 2010, 11:13 pm

    I feel the same way :) I guess it's just growing with our happiness?

  • Chris Hughes April 19, 2010, 11:14 pm

    You're right Edward, anything IS possible.

    Thank you for sharing!

  • Chris Hughes April 19, 2010, 11:14 pm

    You can always come with Kaitlyn, I wouldn't want you to miss me too much :)

  • Chris Hughes April 19, 2010, 11:15 pm

    Hey Steve and welcome! I'll definitely check out the tribe and join it up soon :)

  • Steve Vernon April 20, 2010, 1:43 am

    Hey Chris – what a refreshing blog! I'm definitely a fan already! Would love for you to come join us on the Networking Superstars Tribe Facebook page and share your ideas there, too!

  • Chris Hughes April 20, 2010, 3:13 am

    I feel the same way :) I guess it's just growing with our happiness?

  • Chris Hughes April 20, 2010, 3:14 am

    You're right Edward, anything IS possible.

    Thank you for sharing!

  • Chris Hughes April 20, 2010, 3:14 am

    You can always come with Kaitlyn, I wouldn't want you to miss me too much :)

  • Chris Hughes April 20, 2010, 3:15 am

    Hey Steve and welcome! I'll definitely check out the tribe and join it up soon :)

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