Ever thought about Fear and what it actually means when you are “fearful” of something?
To be honest, if you live in the United States of America or another first world country, we’ve had it pretty easy. Think about this for just a moment. You could have been born in Cambodia during the Cambodian genocide, between 1975 and 1979, in which an estimated 1.5 to 3 million Cambodians died or were killed by the regime.
You can have been just a few years after that in Zimbabwe. The Gukurahundi was a series of massacres of Ndebele civilians carried out by the Zimbabwe National Army from early 1983 to late 1987.
I was born in the USA in 1987, but if my family happened to have lived in Zimbabwe during that time period there is a chance I wouldn’t even be here…
That’s just the truth of how it is. I’ve been extremely blessed to have lived my life the way I have.
Right there are two separate instances where the meaning of FEAR would have been a lot more different to me if I happened to have been in either of those areas.
So for those of us who were lucky enough to have the opportunities in our lives, I put together this video that talks about overcoming fear.
In the video, you’ll see that I spoke about 2 instances where I addressed my fear head on.
One of them was when I did a cage free shark-dive in the Bahamas to address my fear of sharks. You can watch that video below or read more about it in this post about the Stuart’s Cove Shark Dive:
and the other was recently when I decided to run with the bulls in Pamplona, Spain. Both of those experiences were things that I was fairly terrified of. They were things that I thought “oh man that would be so cool to do”, and I committed to doing them.
The thing is, I could have easily backed out each time… and you would have had no idea I even cared to do these things.
I did them not because I wanted to brag about them, but let’s be honest, I do brag about them… to me it’s so damn cool that I did these things and I’m super proud of them. I did them because they scared me… and when things scare me, it’s usually a sign that I needed to face my fear head on.
What I’d love for you to do now (you don’t need to tell anyone) is to think about something you have been scared to do, but something that has always been of interest to you.
Write it down. Yes, I know. You’re probably on your phone or lounging around reading this on your laptop… but I want this to actually help you.
Take out that piece of paper and a pen and write down something you’re scared to do and take a look at it. Have people done it before safely? Is it an irrational fear that you are sure is irrational? Is it something you’ve been fearful of for as long as you can remember?
(that last one was me and sharks… I mean… JAWS.)
But now that it’s written down. It still might be scary. But think about it this way, it’s just writing on a piece of paper at this stage. It’s not like a shark suddenly appeared as soon as you wrote that down and is biting your head off. Right now in your hand, you hold your fear.
That means you’ve already conquered it in one way. You’ve addressed that it is there, and that you can see it and kind of feel it.
Yeah yeah, it isn’t actually happening but bear with me for a minute.
Okay so now that you see this activity or whatever it is, you can hop onto google and type it in to look up some stats. Maybe its that you’re scared of flying? You could look up how many people fly each year. That number is incredible. Maybe its moving to a new city (I’ve done this more times than I can count). Maybe it’s getting on the phone to make a call to someone you lost contact with over the years. We all have different things.
The simple fact that you wrote it down is awesome by the way. Most people don’t do it… that’s why most people never live to their full potential, but I know you’re different.
The next thing, if you’re crazy enough to give it a try, is to look up how you can do whatever it is you are scared of. If it’s flying, hop onto a travel site and plan a trip. Go through the process of picking a destination, picking a date and thinking about what it will be like at this new place. Going through the website doesn’t mean you have to board the plane. You don’t even have to buy the ticket!
Going through the motions of setting up and planning to do the thing will make a shift happen in your mind. You’ll probably have that “oh shit” moment, where it becomes real. Stay with that feeling, get comfortable with it. I know you’ve seen that picture where it shows your comfort zone and how you’re supposed to do stuff outside of your comfort zone…
this feeling you’re having right now… that’s what it’s like outside of your comfort zone. It feels a little weird, doesn’t it? The good news is that you’ll get more comfortable with the feeling the more you do these things… and you didn’t even have to leave the house to do it!
Okay so now that you’ve done this… you have done it, right?
Once you’re good and ready and feeling all nervous… it’s time TO DO THE THING. Set a plan to do something towards it within the next 30 days.
Even scarier, right?
Don’t worry, it’ll be fine. You’ve got this. You are now someone who is comfortable in the uncomfortable. You’re a boss.
The next step is to simply do the thing. Yep, just like Nike says. Just Do It.