January 11, 2010

How Can I Change Myself? The Power of Change.


“My life is a mess” Henry said softly.

“Yes, it is,”Jones agreed, “but only up to this moment.”

The younger man looked up. “What do you mean?”

“I mean that you can change. Now. You can change how you do business, how you treat your family, and how you treat the people whose working lives have been entrusted to you. You can change how you treat them. Right now.

Jones peered carefully into the eyes of the younger man as he continued. “Most people think it takes a long time to change. It doesn’t. Change is immediate! Instantaneous! It may take a long time to decide to change… but change happens in a heartbeat!”

This quote is from the story, The Noticer . The link is a link to a book review I did of this story and I recommend you check that out at some point. However, this post is all about YOU and CHANGE.

I decided to make a change after I had a difficult summer in 2009 and a relationship of 3 years was ended. I decided that I needed to take a look at myself and who I was becoming and make a difference in who I was becoming. My change started on September 7th, 2009 when I decided to listen to a Tony Robbin’s cd instead of go out drinking at the bar to drown my sorrows in a way that I was all too familiar with up until that point. After listening to the audio, I decided that on that day, I would change my life. It’s been quite a journey and I’ve changed a lot about me, limiting drinking, working out daily , eating healthier, and making the biggest change in my business. So enough about me…

The real question…. “What’s it take to change?”

One second is all it takes to change your life. However, actually living and staying with the change takes commitment and hard work. You can get through hard times and prosper. Everyone who has ever become anything has gone through difficult points in their life. Those difficult moments caused them to look at themselves, the place they were and to declare to themselves that they were going to make a change for the better. You hold the same power inside of you to make any change that you want.

The thing to remember

We are exactly where we are meant to be in this moment. No matter if you are a salesperson at a car dealership, a cook at a restaurant, a CEO of a major corporation, or a kid working as a dishwasher(my first job) you are exactly where you are meant to be at this moment.

You may think “but what did I do to deserve this life…” and you may be right in thinking that. However, you need to realize that it was our past decisions that brought us to our present moment. The great thing about this is that since we are in the present, we get to choose which decisions we make that will impact our future!

If you want to make more money you need to be either working during your free-time or educating yourself on how you can make more money in the current job that you have. There are millions of books out there that teach you any type of skill that you could ever imagine. If you are passionate about something, there are books written to teach YOU how to become an expert from someone’s who’s done it. If you want, you can learn to CRUSH IT!

We live in a time where information can be delivered to you instantaneously thanks to the Internet and if you want to get a book, you can head to your local library and rent a book for free or instantly download it in 60 seconds to your Kindle(affiliate link to buy a kindle). However, you can’t just read a book, you need to take action and apply the principles that are being taught in the book.Otherwise, you’re just wasting time and you don’t want to waste time!

Change is all about making the commitment.

As a man, commitment is hard as hell for me to grasp(typical man hehe). However, I’ve learned how to make commitments to certain things. One of these things is the concept of Kaizen or continuous incremental improvement and I have made the change to continuously improve myself in all aspects of my life.

I have found throughout my life that whatever is hard to accomplish is usually more than worth the commitment. If you want to be successful, you better be ready to fail and fail miserably at first. However, failure is temporary and if you commit to improving everyday, you WILL succeed. It’s just how life works, crazy I know but that’s how it is 😉

The BIG question… Are you ready to change?

If you are serious about wanting to improve yourself you must make the change. There’s no if’s and’s or but’s about it. You can change and it is in this very instant that you must make the decision.

Here’s an exercise to help guide you along on your journey of changing.

  • Take out a piece of paper
  • Write what you would like to change
  • Set out achievable goals to help you along your journey of change
  • Specify time periods to when you want each of these goals to happen

Simple, yet SUPER powerful….by writing down your goals you are making the commitment to making a change.

If you don’t follow through on what you have planned it is no ones fault but your own. I’m not going to tell you that because you quit you are going to succeed. I’m here to be a little in your face and say that if you fail…there is a reason and that reason is YOU.  You alone can control your destiny. Are you going to continue living life saying “What if?” and “if only I would have worked harder” or other BS things that people often find themselves saying when it’s 10 years down the road or are you going to say “man, I sure am glad I listened to Chris Hughes’ advice and made a decision and stuck with it”?

I recommend that you take my advice and make the changes…

Change is yours, TAKE IT!

Michael Phelps wouldn’t be where he is at right now if it wasn’t for the hard work and perseverance he put in in his past. He’s a great example of what can be accomplished if you work hard enough.

Feel free to share this post with anyone who might need to change and needs a little kick in the rear to get on the right path. Please share your comments and concerns as well! I’d love to help you with improving yourself!

Chris Hughes

Chris loves learning, going on adventures, surfing and having fun. Chris on Google+

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Mouyyad Abdulhadi - January 11, 2010 Reply

Great post Chris, I went through a similar experience last summer. I ended a 3 year relationship, traveled overseas and came back with a different attitude and a new perspective on my life. My new perspective is allowing me to change for the better.

Chris Hughes - January 12, 2010 Reply

it's been a tough past few months but I did the P90X workout as well as have been focusing on myself and my happiness first and I've found this is helping dramatically. The ex is still my best friend and I'm glad that we still are friends, however I feel that traveling over the next few years will teach me a lot about who I am and who I am going to become.

Changing perspective seems to have a profound impact on our lives!

thank you so much for participating and shooting in some input, I really appreciate you and your taking the time to share your experiences 🙂

ideagirlconsulting - January 12, 2010 Reply

i agree change is good, and Ive had to make some big changes in my life in the past few years and it looks like i'll be making more in the future 🙂

thanks for the encouraging words 🙂

Chris Hughes - January 12, 2010 Reply

I feel that big changes are a great thing as long as their improvements! If there's anything that I can help you with feel free to let me know 🙂

You are very welcome, I am just glad that this is helping people in some way! I am so grateful for everyone who takes the time to read and participate on my blog 🙂

Alex Rinehart, MSACN - January 12, 2010 Reply

Change is inevitable, its accepting it and going along with the ups and down, being willing to refocus and act despite ever-changing variables. I look forward to your posts 1. because they're authentic reflections on your own experiences 2. Because you pack a lot of extended value in the resources distributed throughout.

Chris Hughes - January 12, 2010 Reply

Thank you Alex! You are absolutely right and I'm ever-learning about the process of change. I'm hoping that by sharing my experiences, it will help me along my journey as well as bring some people along on my journey and help them overcome obstacles. I try to provide as much value as I can and I'm glad for your participation and input to help me become better 🙂

Jason Love To Change - October 12, 2011 Reply

What really important is the courage to change and the patient to wait and the pain to endure. 

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