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Public speaking is a common source of stress for everyone. Many of us would like to avoid this problem entirely, but this is hard to do. Whether we work alone or with large numbers of people, eventually we’ll need to speak in public to get certain tasks accomplished. And if we want to be leaders or achieve anything meaningful in our lives, we will often need to speak to groups, whether they are large or small, in order for us to be successful.
I’d like to share with you the top 10 list of global fears among people
Some surveys and research results show that most people rather die instead of talking in front of a live audience. This is a global fears top ten list that I found:
1. Fear of public speaking (Glossophobia)
2. Fear of death (Necrophobia)
3. Fear of spiders (Arachnophobia)
4. Fear of darkness (Achluophobia, Scotophobia or Myctophobia)
5. Fear of heights (Acrophobia)
6. Fear of people or social situations (Sociophobia)
7. Fear of flying (Aerophobia)
8. Fear of open spaces(Agoraphobia)
9. Fear of thunder and lightning(Brontophobia)
10. Fear of confined spaces(Claustrophobia)
What in the world is causing us to be so scared to speak in front of groups?
You know from experience that the typical presentation is average and not many people remember it anyway, so why are we so scared to give these presentations? I’d like to address this in this post and provide some practical advice that I have used to help me become a more effective communicator.
Let’s face it, people buy you with their eyes and if you are not portraying that you are comfortable and in charge of the presentation, people will question your authority no matter what information you present them.
The reason that I am writing this is because today I have given one presentation already(9am) and am giving another presentation at 3pm for two different classes on two different subjects. The first one I gave I got to incorporate juggling into as a plan of reducing stress during finals for college students. This seemed to have come at the right time for everyone seeing as how finals are coming soon…
The biggest reason for fear of public speaking is not understanding the content
During my college years, I have been asked to do presentations on certain topics that I truly did not understand when I first learned that I would be presenting on these topics. Literally, when I first found out about the presentation I thought to myself “Oh man Chris, you’re in trouble this time”. However, this is one of the first steps to fixing the fear.
What did I do next? I took the time to research and started to make sense of the information that I was to be presenting. After realizing that it was okay that I knew very little about the subject, I made it a point to LEARN about the subject and learn to teach the subject in a simplified way.
Let’s face it, the reason that we are scared to present many times is because we aren’t sure of ourselves with the information. If we take the time to learn it, we will become sure of what we are sharing and will be more than likely to have a presentation that accomplishes our goals.
The best way to learn is to teach…
If you have a presentation that is on juggling I recommend learning how to juggle first and then teach someone else how to juggle! However, if you have a presentation on nuclear physics, then I sure can’t help you with that but I bet that Wikipedia and a few industry experts have already broken it down for you so that you can even teach a certain segment of that to a group in a presentation. Start off by teaching even the basics, the simplest of things and finding a way to communicate these things to another person. We often learn a ton more by teaching another than we can ever learn by ourself.
Understanding the audience
When you are doing the research phase of your presentation, you want to understand who the audience is that you will be presenting to. Do they have any knowledge of the subject? Are they new, amateurs, experts? You need to take this into consideration when doing your presentation however if you are a newbie presenting to experts, you may be in the wrong area :-p
After you realize who your audience is, find out a way to present the information in a way that is entertaining and educational.
Edutainment– “Education through Entertainment”
More often than not, presentations are flat out boring. Snoozefests and non-memorable.
When presenting, find something interesting and fun to keep your audiences attention. For me, I personally try to incorporate juggling into my presentations as much as possible. The reason for this is because the majority of people are interested by juggling and it brings the attention to me at once. You don’t necessarily need to juggle to keep the attention of your audience but you could try some other things, many people incorporate jokes into the presentation and this helps to lighten the mood a little.
Things to remember
You Don’t have to be Brilliant or Perfect to Succeed: If you aren’t the worlds foremost expert on the subject you are presenting, it really doesn’t matter that much as long as you share some relevant information that will benefit your audience.
All You Need is Two or Three Main Points: Don’t try to do too much, remember to Keep It Simple Stupid. Trying to cram too much into a presentation will make it unfocused and you will more than likely lose your audience.
and the last thing to remember is
Your Audience Truly Wants You to Succeed: think about it, the majority of people are happy to see someone succeed and are rooting for you to be a successful presenter. They aren’t out to get you and don’t want you to ultimately fail.
So, the next time you are worried about speaking in public, just remember these few tips! If you have any other tips or questions, I can write up another blog to get more in-depth on the subject 🙂
You’ve probably read about it at least once in your life. Maybe you have read it in a book or heard about it on Oprah or any of the other TV stars who have had shows featured on positivity. You may have even heard of the book/movie The Secret. But do you really believe that positive self-talk is good for you?
Too many of these books, movies and TV shows just give you the basics to improving your life through positive self-talk. They tell us “you can become whatever you want if you are positive”. When I first heard this, I decided that I can make $1,000,000 in Network Marketing without any knowledge of marketing, business, relationships or anything. I sure fell for that!
Well it’s worked for the people in the movie and the book
I saw The Secret AND read the book. I was ready to make my million dollars. I wrote down my goal of making that money and thought about it everyday. I got excited when I was thinking about it and told myself that I already had the money. Getting excited each day I found myself having positive thoughts each day that the money was on its way to my bank account.
Too bad that just THINKING about the money and having positive thoughts didn’t bring me that million dollars. Boy was I disappointed. I waited a year trying to be positive the whole year. Still nothing. Wow, I must not be trying hard enough…
What I was missing….
After noticing that the money wasn’t just magically being deposited into my bank account I got a little pissed. I mean, what the hell? I am being positive and waiting for my money, WHERE IS IT!?!?!
Well, it turns out that there is something called the ACTION step that wasn’t mentioned too much in the book or the movie. I realized this about halfway through the year….I’m a slow learned sometimes. I started working more on improving myself and reading as much as I could about ways to succeed. I would read books on personal development, business building, entrepreneurship, identifying and capitalizing on strengths, books on time management, books on influence, books on sales, books on finance and books about anything that I could possibly learn about success and what needs to be done in order to succeed.
It was only after reading these and starting to implement and take action on the ideas I had that I started to notice a difference.
The change happens when you are ready for it…
I definitely was not in any position to be successful and that is the reason that I was not successful. I thought that I was ready and deserved to have a million dollars. Why wouldn’t I deserve it? I was 19-20 years old and I thought I knew it all. LOL. Little did I know that life knows when you are ready.
It took me a while to truly understand the fact that life wasn’t going to just give me something because I had positive thoughts about it. I needed to include a plan of action along with my positive self-talk in order for me to see even the slightest change in my life.
Life truly changes when you realize this. I accepted the fact that it was me who was responsible for my success. It was the actions that I take on a daily basis, the people I connect and surround myself with and the experiences that I have that create true success.
So, is positive self-talk complete and utter BS?
No. Positive self-talk is the first step along the path of improving yourself. It is an essential step and one that is easy to implement. Don’t try to control every single thought that you have, that’s flat out impossible…believe me, I tried 😉 Just take notice when you are having negative thoughts and make a little change to try and find the positive in everything.
Today, you can start to change your life. Let’s face it, you control your life. For me, I have chosen to be positive and to try to bring positivity into the lives of those around me. Feel free to join me on my journey, it’s going to be a fun ride.
If this post helps you, feel free to share it with everyone you know and leave some comments. I’d love to know any experiences you may have had.
I recently bought this poster and have it hung up in my room so I’d like to share it with you, You can click on the picture to see it better
Precision- Knowing what you want is the first step towards achievement.
Do you know what you want in your business and in your life? If you don’t, you have a huge black-hole.
I’m going to give you a little story about a kid named Billy. Billy started out online dreaming big, the first time Billy realized that he wanted to start making money with his computer was when he was about 13 years old and started to sell things on eBay.
So, Billy started to learn some useful things, find some areas that looked profitable and made some sales. All was going great, but there was something that was missing…that was “what Billy really wanted to achieve” because let’s face it, he just didn’t quite know what he wanted yet, money wise or product wise.
So, after a few years, he gets away from ebay and starts to experience high school and moves on to college. Well, Billy gets bitten again one day by the internet bug. When he’s walking to class, he see’s a flyer calling out to students who want to make money online by filling out surveys, so Billy grabs one of the tabs and decides to check it out later on in the day.
After getting back to his room from classes, he decides to head onto the website and sign up to make money online! All is going great, the spark is back in him and he’s ready to take the world by storm! After a few weeks, the candle is burning out and he hasn’t made the money that was promised on the flyer so he gets frustrated…..a few other flyers are around campus so he tries other offers but to no avail…
Then another thing happens, and he gets involved in a MLM company and the flame becomes lit again with the hope of making millions! Well…needless to say the MLM company had a little fib about how “easy” it was to make money with them just like the previous flyers and ebay auctions did.
So, Billy becomes super frustrated and feels that “maybe this just isn’t for me”…
Around this time, an individual that Billy meets asks him “Why have you gotten involved with all of these programs, whats the true reason for doing this?”
The thing was…Billy never stopped to think about this question. He had always just “wanted to make money online” and wasn’t really clear on what he wanted.
AHA! “Lightbulb turns on”
So after spending about an hour talking with this individual, they decide that Billy should sit down with a piece of paper and write out some goals and a reason “why” sheet.
At first Billy struggles about what to put down, and settles on the reasons being that:
-bosses suck, he wants to make own hours
-being forced to work sucks
-better to enjoy the job than to hate it
-wants to see the world
-wants to be “The Man” in his business
-free schedule to “Live My Life”
and for goals he has
-30 days: $100 a month
-2 months: $300 a month
-6 months: $2,000 a month
and 1 year: $7,000 a month
so great…Billy has written down some goals and identified what he wants with his business.
Now comes the part that many people often screw up on…TAKING ACTION.
Billy starts to identify a niche with his new mentor, a niche that will be small enough that it won’t be too competitive yet big enough that there is money to be made there.
After spending about 10 hours with his mentor, a niche is identified and a blog is designed by Billy and his mentor, and the creation of a new product for this niche is in the works! On this website, Billy has a little box for people to sign up for his newsletter that his mentor helped him set up and Billy starts to get some people to sign up onto his list!
A month down the road, Billy has a product almost set up(with some help from his mentor), but he didn’t make his $100 a month goal….
He made $152.38 from some affiliate sales to his list! By developing a relationship with his list, he was able to become a trusted friend to them and when he had something that he thought might benefit them, he shared it with them and they appreciated it and bought using his link.
So it’s one week into the second month and Billy’s product is almost done… Billy has been meeting people and building up his list of individuals who wanted information on his chosen niche and has been sharing some good little tips and information to them, information that has helped him as well.
Upon completion of his product, Billy sends out a series of e-mails to his small list and receives some positive feedback from them and decides that it is time for him to send out the email telling people about his product being finished…
Something really good happens and the people on his list decide to buy his product! and guess what…they are so happy about the product and how good it works, that a lot of them create testimonials for Billy! Oh yeah, Billy also makes $500 in his second month and realizes that things are going great! And a bonus is that he now has testimonials and can share these with even more people!
The months go on and Billy starts to notice something, because he’s been taking some action and providing a good product for his chosen niche, he has been meeting every one of the goals he had set when he first started talking with his mentor.
Why did he wait so long to really identify what he wanted and create a plan of action….
So what’s the moral of this story? Leave some comments and let me know what you feel it is, I’d love to get some feedback and I hope that this helps you to get started or do just a little more to reap the rewards that you know you want 😉
What situations in business make you uncomfortable?
Write them down. What are you feeling?
Where did it start and how long ago?
The situations that make you uncomfortable in business are those when you are at your weakest and most vulnerable points. At these moments, you make the biggest mistakes, the mistakes that are inhibiting you from performing and feeling better.
Attack these things that you wrote down and your life will accelerate.
I know that this stuff isn’t easy to hear, and its really difficult to follow, but it’s for both of these reasons that hearing and following this will lead you to a special place. Because of the fact that when most people here this, they turn around and run the other way, repeating their mistakes and holding themselves back.
DON’T!!!! Do this small exercise every week. It will leave you sore, but it will make you dramatically stronger.
To truly thrive, you must find what makes you uncomfortable and become comfortable with this.
Maybe this thing is sitting in front of a video camera and creating great content through videos, maybe it’s getting the guts to call a prospect on the phone about your opportunity, others find that this thing is public speaking for a job.
If you don’t start to do this, you’ll always get what you’ve always gotten… just remember that.