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January 4, 2017
Location: sitting on my couch watching Better Caul Saul on NetFlix in my villa in Bali, Indonesia
Time: 7:51 pm
So it’s the 4th day of the New Year and all over Facebook you are seeing people posting about their “New Year, New Me” and all kinds of Resolutions…
This is pretty normal if you pay any attention to trends over the years. People get all jacked up and excited about the New Year and have all these crazy cool plans to be the best version of themselves for the New Year.
Hell, I wrote about it in 2011 lol… (You can check it out here –> New Year Activity To Find Your Core Identity, it will open in a new tab)
But, what happens after the drunken stupor from New Years Eve is over? It tends to be back to reality, right…
yeah, I know. The tequila was flowing and those dreams you want to happen just happened to spit out un-filtered. Gotta love the filter eliminator…
Okay so now it’s time for reality to kick in…
It’s time to get real.
Time to actually figure out what your dream life honestly looks like, and plan some action steps to building that life you have always dreamt about, but never wanted to tell anyone about.
Stop what you’re watching on tv, listening to on the radio, tweeting about, or whatever the current distraction is in your life.
and grab a piece of paper and a pencil.
…but Chris, I don’t want to.
Shutup past you. Just do it.
It’s a new year. It’s time for that new you that you’ve always dreamed about…and sometimes it takes some tough love to bring that guy/girl out.
Okay, so now that you have that pen and paper… you’re done!!! You win!
Your dream life is now a reality. You are now a millionaire who lives in the house you’ve always wanted and has the life that you’ve only ever dreamed about.
haha, yeah right.
We know its not that easy.
when you read that, did you think of anything? Maybe about the type of house you are living in now, the type of car you drive, the type of relationship you have, maybe the type of person you became?
There’s a good chance you didn’t. . .
but there’s also a chance you did.
For those of you who immediately thought of something, write this stuff down RIGHT AWAY.
For those of you who didn’t, don’t worry…most people don’t actually know what they want in life.
Only dogs really know what they want… these are 3 puppies that my girlfriend Sam and I were foster parents for for 3 weeks here in Bali…
I mean, all they wanted was food, water, shelter and a whole lotta lovin.. (Dukes front-left, Ernie’s in the back, and Gruber on the right)’
Now us humans on the other hand… we’re a little more complicated… and that SUCKS.
Or does it?
Well, honestly. I think it’s awesome because we have the ability to create the exact life we want.
The problem is that no one ever thinks about what it is that they want. They simply go with the flow, just doing what they’re told, day in and day out.
But what if life didn’t have to be this way?
Oh man, Chris. You’re a weirdo.
haha I know, it’s great.
Ok. Here’s where the fun begins.
On the paper you grabbed earlier, you’re going to write out “BE, DO, HAVE” in big lettering and leave some spaces underneath. Ideally you will have 3 separate pieces of paper, one for each of those words.
Weird uncomfortable moment time…
Under the “BE” category.
Who do you want to be?
When you’re brushing your teeth in the morning and staring yourself in the eyes… or looking at your sexy body… who do you want to be when you look yourself in the mirror?
This can be a very uncomfortable thing. But it doesn’t have to be.
Here’s a starter for you..
The beauty of this activity is that no one need to see this. For all I care you could put “the ability to drink tequila without losing all my clothes”. Seriously, it’s up to you. It’s your life.
You can honestly put anything. I really need to hammer this home, because this is your life. Want to be an author? Fuck it! Write it down!
Want to be fluent in another language? Write it down!
Go crazy with this! It’s your life! You could even write “The greatest pizza grenade launching champion of Eastern Europe” if that’s a real thing, I want to try it.
…okay, next step!
What do you want to do?
Want to become the “greatest pizza grenade launching champion of Eastern Europe”? Guess what, that’s something you can do! Well, it might not be. I’m still not sure, I just hope you’re getting the general idea here.
These are the things you want to do with your life.
Always wanted to see The Empire State Building? Write it down.
Always wanted to dive with sharks? Write it down.
(I highly recommend diving with sharks, it was one of the coolest experiences of my life, here’s the video of it Stuart’s Cove Shark Dive in Nassau, Bahamas )
This is the stuff you’ve always wanted to do. Scared someone might see the list? Do it while they’re asleep. Seriously. Write out everything you’ve ever wanted to do. It’s important, so you have something to plan out!
Now this is one of the things that once people see what it is they thought that they would like to have, they’re usually like “oh shit man, I’m crazy”…
and that’s awesome.
It’s good to be a little bit crazy.
But writing it all out allows you to calculate the exact costs of having every single thing on your “have” list.
If you don’t write it out, you’ll never create a plan to have it….and then when you’re all old and dying you’ll think to yourself “damnit, Chris was right… I should have done the activity he told me to”
So, what do you want to have?
Want a Ferrari? Write it down!
Who gives a shit what other people think about what you want. It’s your life remember. You get to choose what it is you want to have.
Want to own your own winery? Write it down!
Hell, when you own your own winery send me a bottle or invite me to visit it and we can sip on some wine while discussing how awesome life is.
Another thing is that most people don’t know what they want to have. One piece of advice is to think about all the stuff you’ve always dreamed about having and looking at it online to see if its still something you would be interested in. Maybe as a kid you wanted to have your own jetski…
It’s your life, so honestly I don’t know what you want. Only YOU can choose it…
that sentence reminds me of those Smokey The Bear commercials that were on TV when I was a kid… Only YOU Can Prevent Forest Fires.
As a kid I used to always think “yeah, and I can start them too!”… but that’s not important.
What do you want?
Write it down!!!!
With all of the negativity that seems to be taking over social media, it’s important to remember that there are good people out there.
People who want to spread happiness and joy and not just anger and hate.
I’m so happy and grateful that I’m able to share this video with you.
Honestly, these are just 2 normal dudes who decided to make a simple difference in peoples lives.
The look of pure surprise and joy that is experienced by the receivers of this makes me so damn happy.
Here’s what the guys on the page had to say
“We’re just two regular guys. Anyone could do this! Go make a difference today. We plan on filming more videos like this. Please leave your ideas in the comments.”
If you are reading this right now, there’s a great chance that you live a life of abundance and have more than a lot of other people do. Sure, you might be struggling a little. I’ve been there. Hell, I still go through it from time to time.
The thing is, it’s important to always find ways to give back.
Whether it’s your time volunteering, or just lending a helping hand or listening to someone who is having a tough day. This is something we can all do.
Thank you so much for watching the video. Be sure to share this on Facebook and Twitter. I’d love to see this video on other people’s timelines and spreading happiness instead of hate.
July 18, 2016
Location: sitting on my porch listening to the birds chirp while I overlook the ocean in the distance in Bali, Indonesia Time: 1:45pm
I can almost guarantee that you have dreamed about living your exact dream lifestyle more often than not. I know that for me, I used to dream about living the exact life I live now.
In fact, yesterday I flew back to Bali from a weekend trip to Singapore with my girlfriend. Right now, we’re living in Bali, a place that both of us have dreamed about for years.
The truth is that my life wasn’t always like this.
…it all started a few years back when I came across a few different mentors who helped me to get more specific about what I really wanted out of life. One of the messages they kept saying to me was that “If money was no object, what would you be doing with your life?”
I know, it’s pretty cliché. But, it works.
There is an amazing truth behind this question. It forces you to get very specific about your life and what you truly want out of it.
Have you ever actually thought about what you want out of life? Not just the “oh, I’d like to travel more” or “I’d like to make $100,000 a year working a job I love” I mean the exact specifics…
Here’s an example of what I answered with this question.
I want to live a lifestyle where I can do what I want, when I want and go wherever I want. To do this, I will build a business that allows me the freedom to travel the world and have my business grow on auto-pilot, whether I choose to work or not that day. My intention is to earn $100,000 a month in order to achieve my financial goals. I intend to be able to spend my time surfing when the waves are good, and not worry about my business while I’m out catching waves, knowing that it will grow on its own without me. My life will be based around doing things that I think are fun and adventurous, in order to create memories that will last a lifetime. If I hear about something that is a “must have experience” I want to be able to do that. (This happened a few months back when my friends invited me to the Thailand New Year Songkran Celebration) I want to love the businesses I build and be challenged when building them so that I can use my mind to overcome obstacles to create solutions to problems.
I was specific about what I wanted. It wasn’t just a generic answer.
If you’re reading this, you’re probably younger in your career (18-35) and are looking for an answer for “how to live your dream life“.
I want to introduce you to a video and audio from Alan Watts that addresses this question.
So now what? If you’re anything like me, you probably got a little excited feeling in the pit of your stomach. You know the feeling. The excitement. The joy. The air of mystery..
Well, what are you going to do about it?
Seriously. You have two choices. You can go back to your Facebook news feed and keep scrolling…. keeping your life exactly the same as it always has been…. OR You can do this exercise and start to change your life.
The exercise really is simple, just like the question it addresses. When you are answering these questions, it is important to go beyond just the shit you were taught to strive for…. you know the things.
Stuff that Hollywood makes you believe you want. For example, letting go of our ideas about ‘success,’ money, material goods, fame, etc. and instead looking at it like Alan says – if money didn’t matter and I could do anything right now… what would it be?
Don’t worry about the whole career or job thing right now, just begin with what you like. Then think about what you feel you can contribute to the world, whether it be to just one person or a whole community (or the entire globe!).
Educating others, contribution to a project, and bringing joy to others are all examples of ways you could contribute to the world.
The next step is to grab a piece of paper and answer these questions:
“What do I enjoy doing? What makes me tick or gets me excited?”
“What would my ideal day look like if I could do what I wanted to do?”
“What is my ideal job? What does it look like?”
“What are my favorite hobbies or things to do?”
(if you don’t have a piece of paper and pen, go grab one right now and do this activity)
(seriously. If you are still reading this and didn’t get a piece of paper and pen, get off your ass and go get them)
(yes, I said ass.)
Once you start answering some of these more basic questions, we dive into things like:
“Why do I like these things I enjoy doing?”
“What about them are interesting to me?”
How are you starting to feel after answering these questions?
This is going to help you to start understand the things you truly love to do and things you enjoy. It also gets you thinking about why you enjoy these things, which is the truly important thing.
What you just found out is what you value in life, and this is important because it will allow you to make a more educated decision about what you’re going to do with your life.
If something isn’t in alignment with what you want, you don’t do it. Or you do it until you can find a replacement.
For me, I believe Entrepreneurship allows you to eliminate the shit you hate, and focus on the stuff you love. It provides the replacement.
These little details are going to help you create a life that you absolutely love.
In the end, it’s all about doing the activities that bring you joy and ignite your passion, even if it’s only a few hours a week. ….and don’t worry if you can’t find your passion or purpose immediately, it takes time.
Just have fun with this and be playful about the whole idea.
As you get older, your answers will probably change a bit. I know mine have over the years and they will continue to as I get older.
It’s part of the fun of living.
Now here’s a gift I want to give you that will help some of you to start to pursue your dream life.
Yes, I said some of you.
This isn’t going to be for everyone, because let’s face it.
Some people are fu#*ing lazy and won’t do anything.
If you are reading this right now and are thinking “I can create my dream life” and “damnit, I’m not lazy and I am willing to work my ass off to build something to help me live my dream life”, then this might be right for you.
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As Entrepreneur’s one thing that can be extremely valuable to us is watching movies to get in the zone and ready to kick ass and take names.
I’m not sure about you, but I know that when I’m not feeling 100% ready to kick ass, I sometimes need a boost in motivation. That’s when certain movies come to mind.
I wanted to put together a list of the top 10 movies for Entrepreneurs so that I can share my personal favorites with people. You may not agree with any of the movies, or you could agree with all of the movies.
Everyone is different so your movie choices might be a bit different. No worries. Let me know in the comments below what movie you would remove from my list and what your list would include so that others can see a wide range of movies and get ideas.
This post was written mainly as a way of getting yourself motivated when you just don’t feel like getting shit done. Maybe you’ve had a bad day, week, month, year. It’s all a part of Entrepreneurship.
The truth is that Entrepreneurship is hard. One month you could be on top of the world and the next month you could be thinking “what the fuck was I thinking doing this?”
That’s the beauty of it. It’s a constant battle, but it sure is fun as hell.
10) Jerry Maguire
9) Office Space
This 1999 comedy from Mike Judge focuses on Peter Gibbons (Ron Livingston), who eventually discovers how much he hates sitting inside a cubicle taking orders from his creepy boss Bill Lumbergh (Gary Cole). I remember first watching this years and years ago.
My dad was working at IBM and was driving over an hour to and from work every single day. Not that it happened, but I pictured my dad being stuck in traffic just like Peter was every day. I then pictured him sitting in his office and not really living being happy with what he was getting done every day. This is in no way accurate to what my dad was doing, he appeared to have really enjoyed his job and I’m glad he did.
But, I knew that it wasn’t what I wanted to do. I didn’t want to sit in traffic everyday, or to sit in the same cubicle every day.
Funny thing is that now I move condo’s or countries almost every 3 months like clock-work. Clearly I took this to heart and now strive to find new “offices” every few months to keep my excitement level high.
Why watch it? Every entrepreneur hates working for someone else and it shows you what it’s like living a “normal” life.
8) Glengarry Glen Ross
“PUT. THAT COFFEE. DOWN. Coffee is for closers only. You think I’m fuckin’ with you? I am not fuckin’ with you.”
Need I say more?
This movie is great to remember competition and incentive that decides who is the best.
In today’s day and age with everyone getting participation medals just for showing up, this movie stands out.
While many parents reading this may think “my child participated, so they should get a medal” I say that they shouldn’t. This movie is one of the biggest reasons why.
Competition is essential to growing up and becoming an adult. In the real world no one gives you a participation medal just for showing up for work. It’s your job to do that.
Competition drives innovation. It is the reason for all of the crazy cool gadgets and inventions that have come about over the history of time.
Yeah I hear ya “but my child is young and I want to build their self-confidence”… who cares.
Self-confidence is built by losing and acknowledging you lost. It’s built by learning from that loss and taking what you learned to be better. To work harder, smarter and to improve. Trophy’s are supposed to be EARNED.
That’s why I like this movie. The sales competition shows exactly why people work hard.
First prize is a Cadillac El Dorado, second prize is a set of steak knives, third prize is you’re fired.
7)Pursuit of Happyness
The Pursuit of Happyness is based on the story of Chris Gardner and his struggles to chase his dream while raising a son.
The majority of people today view Entrepreneurship as a super fancy lifestyle and good things happening all the time.
This story shows the truth of the matter.
At the beginning, life absolutely sucks.
People tell you that you can’t do things and life proves it. Failure is a common thing you learn to live with, but every single day you get up and work to chase the dream.
Will Smith does a great job with showing the struggle and as you guessed it, eventually finds massive success.
Why watch it? Even though he became homeless and struggled to provide for his son, Chris never gave up on his dream. That passion and sacrifice is something every entrepreneur should be willing to embrace.
6) Boiler Room
As a son, I understand what the main character in this movie was going through. Seth Davis, a Queens College dropout wants to impress his father and enters the world of stockbroking.
For young Entrepreneurs out there, you are going to face a lot of moral dilemmas and the way you deal with them is going to shape your future. The way that this movie showcases that is terrific.
Seth learns about the behind the scenes business that is happening at his company and has a choice to make. The choice will determine his fate.
There’s a ton of great quotes throughout the movie about the importance of hustle and the mindset it takes to be rich… some of my favorites are listed below:
“They say money can’t buy happiness? Look at the fucking smile on my face. Ear to ear, baby.”
“Anybody who tells you money is the root of all evil doesn’t fucking have any.”
“There’s an important phrase that we use here, and think it’s time that you all learned it. Act as if. You understand what that means? Act as if you are the fucking President of this firm. Act as if you got a 9″ cock. Okay? Act as if.”
Blow is based on a true story and the life of George Jung.
Sure, it deals with drugs and is not the best message ethically, but we’re using these movies to motivate ourselves and show what is possible.
George started off selling marijuana as a small time operation and then at his height it was rumored that he handled about 85% of all the supply of cocaine in the 1970’s.
Talk about impact.
Going from a small time man to one of the most influential people in his market is HUGE no matter what you’re dealing with.
This film is all about how he did it. There’s a LOT of messages in this movie.
4) The Social Network
Of course you knew the story of Mark Zuckerberg would be in this.
It is the story of how Mark became transformed from a Harvard student to launching the most popular social-media network in the world.
Why watch it? Sure it was super dramatic and over the top at times (hey, it’s Hollywood), but damn they did a good job showing the drive it takes to succeed.
Every time I watch this movie it motivates me to be a better entrepreneur.
Some of my favorite quotes from the movie include:
“Sean Parker: You don’t even know what the thing is yet. How big it can get, how far it can go. This is no time to take your chips down. A million dollars isn’t cool, you know what’s cool?
Eduardo Saverin: [Sarcastically] You?
Sean Parker: [the scene shifts back to the deposition room] A billion dollars.”
“Ma’am, I know you’ve done your homework and so you know that money isn’t a big part of my life, but at the moment I could buy Mt. Auburn Street, take the Phoenix Club, and turn it into my ping-pong room.”
Every single person I know who has watched this movie wants NZT.
That’s how good this movie was.
It’s the story of a deadbeat writer who discovers a mystery pill that helps him access more of his brain. Suddenly his life turns around and his life drastically changes over the course of a month or two. It’s everyones dream.
One thing that interests me about the movie is the desire for knowledge he develops. Language learning, taking care of personal health and working hard become a common thing for him after he was just a lazy writer who would get drunk in the middle of the day.
While you can do this without the pill, are you willing to?
Some quotes I liked:
“Eddie Morra: What’s the asking price?
Realtor: $8.5 million.
Eddie Morra: I’ll take it.”
“Your powers are a gift from God or whoever the hell wrote your life script.”
2) Forrest Gump
Who doesn’t love Forrest Gump?
It’s the story of a simple man with good intentions, who accidentally becomes insanely successful by just living his life the best way he knew how. He wins medals of honor, becomes a college football player, becomes a professional ping-pong player, owns a huge shrimping company and inspires people everywhere.
What I love about this movie is that it shows that anyone can have this level of success. You just have to try.
1) The Wolf of Wall Street
“The only thing standing between you and your goal is the bullshit story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it.”
― Jordan Belfort
This is the story of a guy who went from nothing to something HUGE. Sure some of the stuff he did was illegal, alright, the majority of the stuff was illegal.
The simple fact that he built up such a massive company and inspired all of those people is what a true leader does. Entrepreneurs know this and do this. They take an idea and turn it into a reality.
“Act as if! Act as if you’re a wealthy man, rich already, and then you’ll surely become rich. Act as if you have unmatched confidence and then people will surely have confidence in you. Act as if you have unmatched experience and then people will follow your advice. And act as if you are already a tremendous success, and as sure as I stand here today – you will become successful.”
― Jordan Belfort
What would you add to the list?
Hey! So a few weeks back I went to Mexico to Mastermind with my buddy Brendan and discuss growing our business and get a new viewpoint as well as visit a new country.
…and we happened to rent a house on the beach.
…and I happened to notice a coconut tree in the backyard!
Which of course meant I had to have fresh coconut juice. Granted, I had never done this before so it was a new experience for me. I figured it would be fun to share with you how it all went down.
Thank you to my girlfriend, Sam, for laughing at me the whole time and getting these pictures.
So the first idea I had was to throw rocks at the coconuts and hope I hit them and eventually one would fall…
this worked for a little while, but there has to be a better way, right?
Next step was to try to hold my buddy Brendan up while he pulled them off the tree…
that didn’t work.
Why not try a chair!
Sure enough, this worked and it was easier than the previous attempts.
Alright so now to open these coconuts…
Step 1 is to break the outer shell.
I found the easiest way was to bang the side of the coconut off of an edge of something strong…in this case, the wall.
You can see in the picture how it’s cracked a bit. We found that by cracking the top and then breaking the sides so they had a deep cut into it, we were then able to peel off the exterior layer.
At this step, you just peel and peel until you have the outer shell completely off.
Sometimes while you are breaking them you go too far and this is what happens..
Although, you’ll see on the table there that one of the coconuts is entirely peeled…the one that’s sitting on the table is fully peeled.
The next step is to find a shell or rock that has a flat edge on one end and comes to a point on the other.
We tried the knife shown in the picture, but in a normal situation you mind not have a knife to use.
So you’ll place the pointed edge of the rock/shell into the top of the coconut and use another rock to hammer it in. The shell will crack a little bit at the point where you hit it. That’s a good sign.
Once that happens, you’ll want to repeat the process and make a circle of these little cracks in the coconut.
This will make it easier for you to pick out the broken shell and get to the inside.
Once you have cracked it a few times, you can start peeling the hard exterior off. Then all you need to do is poke a little hole in the interior (the white part) and you’ll be getting fresh coconut water!
and if anyone is wondering what it’s like to work while in Mexico this is where I spent a good chunk of my days when not hanging out/surfing..
Yes, to have my lifestyle you do have to work your ass off. But it’s 100% worth it.