Moods are something that can be extremely deceptive. They can trick you into believing your life is worse than it really is. But, moods can also be good. When you are in a good mood, your relationships seem to flow and communication is easy. If you are criticized, you take it in stride.
But, if you are in a bad mood, life looks unbearably serious and super difficult. You have very little if any perspective. You start to take things personally and often misinterpret those around you.
Here’s the big catch with moods: People don’t realize their moods are always changing. They think that instead, their lives have suddenly become worse in the past day or hour. So someone who is in a great mood early on in the day can feel great about his life, job and family but by the mid-afternoon if his mood is bad, you guessed it… he hates his job, thinks his family is out to get him and will complain about his life.
Something like this may seem absurd to us, even funny in some instances. We completely forget that when we are in a good mood that everything is so much better. While we are in a good or bad mood, we experience identical circumstances- where we work, the car you own, your family, etc but we look at these entirely differently depending on our mood!
When we are low, rather than blaming our mood as would seem to be the right thing to do, we feel our whole life is wrong!!! OMG!!! It’s almost as if we believe that our entire life changed and has fallen apart in the last hour or day.
The truth of this is that life is almost never as bad as it seems when you’re in a low mood. Rather than staying stuck in the bad mood, convince yourself that this is life. Remind yourself that “I know i’m feeling angry[anything else]; I’m in a bad mood. I always feel negative when I’m down.”
When you are in a situation like this, become aware of it and accept that it is an unavoidable human condition that will pass with time, if you let it.
NEVER analyze your life when you are in a low mood. It’s just like jumping off a bridge, pure emotional suicide. If you really have a legitimate problem, it will still be there when your mood lifts and you can analyze it then. The trick is to just be grateful for our good moods and graceful in our low moods- never taking them too seriously.
A great quote that I remember from Blow is “Sometimes you’re flush and sometimes you’re bust, and when you’re up, it’s never as good as it seems, and when you’re down, you never think you’ll be up again, but life goes on. ”