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Before she died, 27-year-old Holly Butcher wrote a letter we all need to read.

Holly Butcher

I came across this letter this morning and absolutely had to share it. Not just for myself, but as a reminder that each day is a gift.

I did not know Holly Butcher, but I believe this letter was meant to be shared, which is why I am sharing it here. Holly posted this on January 3, 2018 and died the next day. Cancer got the best of her, yet she still chose to share this list of life lessons on Facebook 24 hours before she lost her fight with Ewing’ sarcoma – a rare bone cancer.

She was 27 years old…

“It’s a strange thing to realize and accept your mortality at 26 years young. It’s just one of those things you ignore. The days tick by and you just expect they will keep on coming; Until the unexpected happens. I always imagined myself growing old, wrinkled and grey- most likely caused by the beautiful family (lots of kiddies) I planned on building with the love of my life. I want that so bad it hurts.

That’s the thing about life; It is fragile, precious and unpredictable and each day is a gift, not a given right.

I’m 27 now. I don’t want to go. I love my life. I am happy.. I owe that to my loved ones. But the control is out of my hands.

I haven’t started this ‘note before I die’ so that death is feared – I like the fact that we are mostly ignorant to it’s inevitability.. Except when I want to talk about it and it is treated like a ‘taboo’ topic that will never happen to any of us.. That’s been a bit tough. I just want people to stop worrying so much about the small, meaningless stresses in life and try to remember that we all have the same fate after it all so do what you can to make your time feel worthy and great, minus the bullshit.

I have dropped lots of my thoughts below as I have had a lot of time to ponder life these last few months. Of course it’s the middle of the night when these random things pop in my head most!

Those times you are whinging about ridiculous things (something I have noticed so much these past few months), just think about someone who is really facing a problem. Be grateful for your minor issue and get over it. It’s okay to acknowledge that something is annoying but try not to carry on about it and negatively effect other people’s days.

Once you do that, get out there and take a freaking big breath of that fresh Aussie air deep in your lungs, look at how blue the sky is and how green the trees are; It is so beautiful. Think how lucky you are to be able to do just that – breathe.

You might have got caught in bad traffic today, or had a bad sleep because your beautiful babies kept you awake, or your hairdresser cut your hair too short. Your new fake nails might have got a chip, your boobs are too small, or you have cellulite on your arse and your belly is wobbling.

Let all that shit go.. I swear you will not be thinking of those things when it is your turn to go. It is all SO insignificant when you look at life as a whole. I’m watching my body waste away right before my eyes with nothing I can do about it and all I wish for now is that I could have just one more Birthday or Christmas with my family, or just one more day with my partner and dog. Just one more.

I hear people complaining about how terrible work is or about how hard it is to exercise – Be grateful you are physically able to. Work and exercise may seem like such trivial things … until your body doesn’t allow you to do either of them.

I tried to live a healthy life, in fact, that was probably my major passion. Appreciate your good health and functioning body- even if it isn’t your ideal size. Look after it and embrace how amazing it is. Move it and nourish it with fresh food. Don’t obsess over it.

Remember there are more aspects to good health than the physical body.. work just as hard on finding your mental, emotional and spiritual happiness too. That way you might realise just how insignificant and unimportant having this stupidly portrayed perfect social media body really is.. While on this topic, delete any account that pops up on your news feeds that gives you any sense of feeling shit about yourself. Friend or not.. Be ruthless for your own well-being.

Be grateful for each day you don’t have pain and even the days where you are unwell with man flu, a sore back or a sprained ankle, accept it is shit but be thankful it isn’t life threatening and will go away.

Whinge less, people! .. And help each other more.

Give, give, give. It is true that you gain more happiness doing things for others than doing them for yourself. I wish I did this more. Since I have been sick, I have met the most incredibly giving and kind people and been the receiver of the most thoughtful and loving words and support from my family, friends and strangers; More than I could I ever give in return. I will never forget this and will be forever grateful to all of these people.

It is a weird thing having money to spend at the end.. when you’re dying. It’s not a time you go out and buy material things that you usually would, like a new dress. It makes you think how silly it is that we think it is worth spending so much money on new clothes and ‘things’ in our lives.

Buy your friend something kind instead of another dress, beauty product or jewellery for that next wedding. 1. No-one cares if you wear the same thing twice 2. It feels good. Take them out for a meal, or better yet, cook them a meal. Shout their coffee. Give/ buy them a plant, a massage or a candle and tell them you love them when you give it to them.

Value other people’s time. Don’t keep them waiting because you are shit at being on time. Get ready earlier if you are one of those people and appreciate that your friends want to share their time with you, not sit by themselves, waiting on a mate. You will gain respect too! Amen sister.

This year, our family agreed to do no presents and despite the tree looking rather sad and empty (I nearly cracked Christmas Eve!), it was so nice because people didn’t have the pressure of shopping and the effort went into writing a nice card for each other. Plus imagine my family trying to buy me a present knowing they would probably end up with it themselves.. strange! It might seem lame but those cards mean more to me than any impulse purchase could. Mind you, it was also easier to do in our house because we had no little kiddies there. Anyway, moral of the story- presents are not needed for a meaningful Christmas. Moving on.

Use your money on experiences.. Or at least don’t miss out on experiences because you spent all your money on material shit.

Put in the effort to do that day trip to the beach you keep putting off. Dip your feet in the water and dig your toes in the sand. Wet your face with salt water.

Get amongst nature.

Try just enjoying and being in moments rather than capturing them through the screen of your phone. Life isn’t meant to be lived through a screen nor is it about getting the perfect photo.. enjoy the bloody moment, people! Stop trying to capture it for everyone else.

Random rhetorical question. Are those several hours you spend doing your hair and make up each day or to go out for one night really worth it? I’ve never understood this about females .

Get up early sometimes and listen to the birds while you watch the beautiful colours the sun makes as it rises.

Listen to music.. really listen. Music is therapy. Old is best.

Cuddle your dog. Far out, I will miss that.

Talk to your friends. Put down your phone. Are they doing okay?

Travel if it’s your desire, don’t if it’s not.

Work to live, don’t live to work.

Seriously, do what makes your heart feel happy.

Eat the cake. Zero guilt.

Say no to things you really don’t want to do.

Don’t feel pressured to do what other people might think is a fulfilling life.. you might want a mediocre life and that is so okay.

Tell your loved ones you love them every time you get the chance and love them with everything you have.

Also, remember if something is making you miserable, you do have the power to change it – in work or love or whatever it may be. Have the guts to change. You don’t know how much time you’ve got on this earth so don’t waste it being miserable. I know that is said all the time but it couldn’t be more true.

Anyway, that’s just this one young gals life advice. Take it or leave it, I don’t mind!

Oh and one last thing, if you can, do a good deed for humanity (and myself) and start regularly donating blood. It will make you feel good with the added bonus of saving lives. I feel like it is something that is so overlooked considering every donation can save 3 lives! That is a massive impact each person can have and the process really is so simple.

Blood donation (more bags than I could keep up with counting) helped keep me alive for an extra year – a year I will be forever grateful that I got to spend it here on Earth with my family, friends and dog. A year I had some of the greatest times of my life.

..’Til we meet again.

Hol

Xoxo”

 

How To Overcome Fear In Less Than 5 Minutes

overcoming fear

Ever thought about Fear and what it actually means when you are “fearful” of something?

To be honest, if you live in the United States of America or another first world country, we’ve had it pretty easy. Think about this for just a moment. You could have been born in Cambodia during the Cambodian genocide, between 1975 and 1979, in which an estimated 1.5 to 3 million Cambodians died or were killed by the regime.

or

You can have been just a few years after that in Zimbabwe. The Gukurahundi was a series of massacres of Ndebele civilians carried out by the Zimbabwe National Army from early 1983 to late 1987.

I was born in the USA in 1987, but if my family happened to have lived in Zimbabwe during that time period there is a chance I wouldn’t even be here…

That’s just the truth of how it is. I’ve been extremely blessed to have lived my life the way I have.

Right there are two separate instances where the meaning of FEAR would have been a lot more different to me if I happened to have been in either of those areas.

So for those of us who were lucky enough to have the opportunities in our lives, I put together this video that talks about overcoming fear.

In the video, you’ll see that I spoke about 2 instances where I addressed my fear head on.

One of them was when I did a cage free shark-dive in the Bahamas to address my fear of sharks. You can watch that video below or read more about it in this post about the Stuart’s Cove Shark Dive:

and the other was recently when I decided to run with the bulls in Pamplona, Spain. Both of those experiences were things that I was fairly terrified of. They were things that I thought “oh man that would be so cool to do”, and I committed to doing them.

The thing is, I could have easily backed out each time… and you would have had no idea I even cared to do these things.

I did them not because I wanted to brag about them, but let’s be honest, I do brag about them… to me it’s so damn cool that I did these things and I’m super proud of them. I did them because they scared me… and when things scare me, it’s usually a sign that I needed to face my fear head on.

What I’d love for you to do now (you don’t need to tell anyone) is to think about something you have been scared to do, but something that has always been of interest to you.

Write it down. Yes, I know. You’re probably on your phone or lounging around reading this on your laptop… but I want this to actually help you.

Take out that piece of paper and a pen and write down something you’re scared to do and take a look at it. Have people done it before safely? Is it an irrational fear that you are sure is irrational? Is it something you’ve been fearful of for as long as you can remember?

(that last one was me and sharks… I mean… JAWS.)

But now that it’s written down. It still might be scary. But think about it this way, it’s just writing on a piece of paper at this stage. It’s not like a shark suddenly appeared as soon as you wrote that down and is biting your head off. Right now in your hand, you hold your fear.

That means you’ve already conquered it in one way. You’ve addressed that it is there, and that you can see it and kind of feel it. 

Yeah yeah, it isn’t actually happening but bear with me for a minute.

Okay so now that you see this activity or whatever it is, you can hop onto google and type it in to look up some stats. Maybe its that you’re scared of flying? You could look up how many people fly each year. That number is incredible. Maybe its moving to a new city (I’ve done this more times than I can count). Maybe it’s getting on the phone to make a call to someone you lost contact with over the years. We all have different things.

The simple fact that you wrote it down is awesome by the way. Most people don’t do it… that’s why most people never live to their full potential, but I know you’re different.

The next thing, if you’re crazy enough to give it a try, is to look up how you can do whatever it is you are scared of. If it’s flying, hop onto a travel site and plan a trip. Go through the process of picking a destination, picking a date and thinking about what it will be like at this new place. Going through the website doesn’t mean you have to board the plane. You don’t even have to buy the ticket!

Going through the motions of setting up and planning to do the thing will make a shift happen in your mind. You’ll probably have that “oh shit” moment, where it becomes real. Stay with that feeling, get comfortable with it. I know you’ve seen that picture where it shows your comfort zone and how you’re supposed to do stuff outside of your comfort zone

this feeling you’re having right now… that’s what it’s like outside of your comfort zone. It feels a little weird, doesn’t it? The good news is that you’ll get more comfortable with the feeling the more you do these things… and you didn’t even have to leave the house to do it!

Okay so now that you’ve done this… you have done it, right?

Once you’re good and ready and feeling all nervous… it’s time TO DO THE THING. Set a plan to do something towards it within the next 30 days.

Even scarier, right?

Don’t worry, it’ll be fine. You’ve got this. You are now someone who is comfortable in the uncomfortable. You’re a boss.

The next step is to simply do the thing. Yep, just like Nike says. Just Do It.

Introducing: The Money Grabs – A Money Mindset Activity

Today I want to share with you something that’s known as the “money grab”…. and it’s one of my all-time favorite activities to do in order to increase wealth consciousness.

CAUTION: You’ll look like a fool to onlookers.

If you’re one of my good friends, I’ve most likely made you do the money grab. I actually made my brother do it one of the days we were hiking in St. John, US Virgin Islands, earlier this year.. except it was extremely hot and the “grabs” were for a breeze to come off the water and cool us down.

The money grab is a very simple activity. It doesn’t require anything. Except well… to be awake.

The whole idea is simple. Think about the amount of transactions that happen every single minute around the world. People are at the grocery store buying milk, people are buying clothes on different websites, people are buying… well, you get it.

The money from these purchases isn’t being shipped in one of those crazy armored cars that’s loaded with money (like in those cool bank robber movies). That would be insane.

Imagine if for every $5 purchase someone made on their phone, an armored vehicle came and picked up the money to move it to someone else’s account. That would be a funny scene… although crazy expensive in day-to-day life. the good news is that with technology, this money is constantly flowing through around.

This activity allows you to sort of tap into it. Now i’m not saying doing this is going to instantly put money in your pocket… or that you’re stealing money from these transactions. You’re simply raising your level of awareness to it happening.. So whenever your bank account is at a number that is pisses you off, remember that the money is constantly flowing around you… you just have to find a way to step into it.

(You can do this through starting a business – Here’s a FREE Training Reveals How  To Earn $3880/month With Affiliate Commissions..

Let me know below if you’ve ever done the “money grabs” and what you thought about it!

Video About The Money Grabs – A Money Mindset Activity

 

Simple Habit To Set Yourself Up For Success

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There are a few simple things that I like to do in order to “stack my wins” up each day.

One of them for me is to get my coffee prepared the night before. I’ve found that the more “wins” I can get in a day, the better my overall day goes… so why not try to simplify as many of these wins as possible.

That way, I increase my chance of having a kick ass day. What kind of daily wins do you have?

This short video shows you why I love building these “little wins” into my day, to make sure I come out on top.

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